WHY SOME OF US LIKE TO DATE "DOWN"?
DATING OR HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE MORE INTELLIGENT THAN YOU?(Pros and Cons )
This is part of a series...we would be tackling,over the next few articles.It would include:
A.Dating or in a r/ship with someone financially better off,than you?
B.Dating or in a r/ship with someone more popular than you?
C.Dating or in a r/ship with someone more physically attractive than you?
D.Dating or in a r/ship with someone happier than you?
Someone may ask...how can you tell,whether someone is happier than you(overall)?You can find out when the article comes out soon.
Today,we are going to deal with the first question.We would see where it takes or leaves us.How can you tell,if someone is more intelligent than you?Most of us ...would not subject our potential dates or partners to a series of exams.We would not cleverly ...trick them into answering telling questions?Would we...?We would ask them...multiple questions with the aim of figuring out,what they know and believe?Would we not...?Whether you have done it before or not...there is almost a 100% chance that,it has been done to you.The problem with...such ventures is that the "asker" has to be smarter than the "askee "for it to be valid.[I do not bother]You would ...only look like a mug,if the person is smarter than you.
Anyway ...what are the pros and cons of dating someone,more intelligent than you?I have a few answers[...and I am sure there are more b/c there are a lot of smarter people out there,haha]
The pros include:
1-A FASTER PROBLEM SOLVER
There are multi-facet advantages to having a problem solver as your companion.There is the point about emergencies:we hardly want someone who would be frazzled and clueless when unexpected events occur.It is not ...a matter of staying calm[because it is not enough]You need someone who is highly informed[someone who knows what they are doing]We are not ..always at our best.So a partner who jumps in...and saves us a lot of embarrassment is an asset.Problems vary from degree to degree.It is uncommon for anyone to encounter every type of problem before their demise.So having someone smarter than you...along for the ride,is a huge relief.Especially...if your intelligence is not to be sniffed at either.The bottom line is...TWO HEADS ARE BETTER THAN ONE.And it is better to have a smart one,and a smarter one, than a smart one AND a dumb one.
2-A RICHER AND FULLER COMPANIONSHIP
The second reason...for having a more intelligent person as a partner is,communication.There are two parts to this point.You can have a good communication with someone because they have a lot to say.Or you could have
a good talk with someone,simply because they are clear and articulate in conversations.[both are a product of intelligence]Now,my communication can be articulate at times,and sometimes it could be mumbo jumbo ...to others[I strive to improve everyday]It is important to ...keep things simple because,ideas are complex[9/10]from their original source.I DO NOT KNOW HOW WELL I SUCCEEDED WITH THAT LAST STATEMENT.So forgive me.It can be difficult sometimes.However,smarter people would almost always have a reply to your questions and statements.Of Course,confidence is another issue.Nevertheless,when they are relaxed...someone smarter than you...would always help to make great conversations.And whether you are talking about dating or a full-on relationship...conversation is 90% of the ride.
Now some of you may not see ....the huge plus side with this reason.I think,it is crucial for some people.In a world increasingly becoming...obsessed with image .Some can find respite...in the fact that their partners are smarter.If your colleagues or friends...are the teasing or bullying type,you can always fall back on the help of your partner's superior intelligence.Everytime...you fall short of expectations,you can respond with a statement like"just because I don't know or understand does not mean ...my partner does not know either.[he or she is more intelligent,so they could know]And so...you can have a defence every single time[as long as he/she is not close by...to support your incredible claims]
The cons include:
1-A MOOD KILLER
One thing ...an intelligent person thrives upon is,being right.It is a rare person
who has the ability to solve problems and figure out things,to submit those privileges
to someone else.It is because we want to be right at all times,that we apply our intelligence.So it is hard to say...I am wrong when,you think you are right.[Playing the fool...?]There is only..a number of times,you can be submissive for peace sake.Unfortunately.....the desire to be RIGHT,makes us sulk when we have been played out because we have made a mistake somewhere.When your partner is dancing ....their dance of victory,you feel something has been taken away from you?It is your right to be right.[being the smarter ...one]Please get over yourself.Don't get me wrong...I am guilty of this sin.We all need ...to grow up.And I always hope I am better at it ..than I was,in the PAST.It is a Mood killer,when you cannot rejoice with your partner,when they outsmart you.[when you are the more intelligent one]It is one of the perks ...she/he receives from trying to match your brilliance.This is probably...the number one reason people detest dating someone smarter than them;they are mood-killers.
2-ABSENT-minded DURING Companionship
One of the pit-falls of having someone more intelligent than you is the...risk.The risk of boring them ...too soon.When someone is on a higher plane of knowledge...it takes them away from you.You are only amusing,as a source of entertainment.When the serious thinking and educational thoughts come around,you could find yourself frozen out.He/she would seem absent-minded ...because they have taken a trajectory from what you said.And they could not share it...because you would probably,not understand fully.As companionship and communication is 90%...of dating and r/ships,it seems ...stupid to accept a deal,where you would be frozen out most of the time.And you ...feel alone,when you are supposed to feel together and part of someone.
3-IRRITATING ARROGANCE OR CONDESCENDING ATTITUDE
Haha...this is some what ,not the fault of the smarter partner.It just seems common...
that no matter,how you try to relate information or feelings[as the smarter one];it comes
across as condescending or arrogant.If you are ...the kind of person who is full of insecurities,PLEASE DON'T adopt the idea of dating or relating with someone smarter.If you start out well..it quickly turns into an irritation every time,they try to help you.At one point...of the relationship,you would want to start asserting yourself more.And ...intelligence is not a quality you can easily over take someone in.So they will still be smarter and right more times.So you will find yourself ...jamming against a wall,as you try to be dominant in an area ...almost impossible.I feel this is number 2...on the list of relationship breakers.
4-SPOT LIGHT GRABBER
Again...insecurity is not a helpful quality.Intelligent people tend to draw attention successfully.If your woman or man is smarter than you,there is a high chance that the spot light would be more on them.[when you are out ...together]And seeing..less and less of the spot light,can make you seek solace somewhere else.So you need ..to be capable of handling "second class"status most of the times.Can you?
5-YOU CAN BECOME AN EASY PREY
.....Just as some of these cons,are not the fault of the smarter partner;some are clearly the fault of the smarter one...This is another one.There is no relationship...that does not go through periods of arguments.When one side has ...the ability to twist notions and words more than the other person,there is a temptation.A temptation to blame every fault on them.If you can avoid ...embarrassing moments by arguing your flawed stance,would you?Most of us...do.And if she/he is hopeless against your superior intelligence...what chance does she/he have to prevent being an easy prey.If you cannot articulate your defence,it does not mean...you cannot figure out when you are right...and the other person is wrong.Most people do not want to be ...the easy prey.They would rather be the ...merciful predator,than be a hopeful prey.
My conclusion...is,find someone pretty much on the same level of intelligence.In
life,planning your path is hardly ...all down to you.So if,you find yourself in a relationship or dating someone more intelligent than you...just hope you have read an article like mine.
PLEASE LOOK OUT FOR ...THE REST OF THE SERIES,and pray I have something
to write[I DON't Always have an idea of what is coming out of my head ...haha]