WHY DO WE DATE..PEOPLE WHO ARE HAPPIER?
There is ...only one answer to this question.Anyone?It is ..because we want to be HAPPy too!
So this article is not going to be...a list of reasons people want to date a certain kind of person.It is going to be about tackling UNHAPPINESS.(and increasing HAPPINESS)
Somewhere...I saw a statement saying:MONEY CANNOT BUY YOU HAPPINESS,BUT IT CAN BUY YOU A PENGUIN;HAVE YOU EVER SEEN AN UNHAPPY OWNER OF A PENGUIN?[or something similar...]Well,my reply is...the PENGUIN did NOT bring about the happiness;only someone already HAPPY,would go and buy a penguin.haha.It is true.Trust me...and trust me well,when I say...HAPPINESS IS LIKE BLOOD IN OUR SYSTEM;you cannot buy it at the counter or superstore...to start up a supply for your system.You HAVE ..to have it originally at birth.You can top up occasionally but,no-one suddenly becomes..happy like a switch,when they
were born or conditioned into unhappiness.
There are A Few concepts or notions that are mistaken for happiness.One of them is satisfaction.Now,forgive me...if the Oxford dictionary meaning of these words conflict with what I am saying:I am applying the meanings ...as society uses them,in a practical sense.And not as...an all covering theoretical definition.Satisfaction is a sense ....of accomplishment.And it is usually temporary.It is NOT ...the same as happiness.Excitement is ANOTHER,notion mistaken for happiness.It is not the same thing,as it is a sudden burst of positive attitude and energy towards something.Usually,it is based around ...a half truth or a fantasy.Happiness is AUTHENTIC,STRONG and INDEPENDENT.Another,word associated with happiness is CONFIDENCE.Confidence is more of a...mental state than an emotional one.Happiness is very emotional.
WHAT CAN ENHANCE..happiness?
For those ... born in unhappiness;the road is not blocked.And those with low
levels of happiness..it could be helped if you pick upon some of these points below:
REST,BALANCE AND VARIETY
As much as ...I have differentiated some notions from happiness,confidence,excitement and satisfaction are still elements found in happiness.A happy person is usually confident,often excited and satisfied or content.One of the things important to keeping your level
of happiness ...is having a lot of rest,balance and variety in your life.
The recommended amount of sleep...for a healthy functioning body is apparently 6hrs a day.I try to get...8 hrs everyday .If you are not getting enough rest and sleep per day,
you are jeopardising your happiness levels.I must add that..having lots of rest can
compensate for a drop in sleep(hours)for only ...a short period.An inability to sleep...usually comes from a haphazard bedtime regulation.You can also upset..your relaxing hormone mechanism with diet,and imbalanced exercising routines.It is a whole different complex problem,we would deal with sometime.The bottom line is...get enough rest,and sleep:YOU CANNOT CHEAT NATURE.In the case of balance;every individual with a personality and character...has opinions and bias towards most things.For example,we have our favourite food,clothing style,sports,music and even friends.When you examine..
your choices,you will usually find a pattern.[maybe..most of your friends are soft spoken or most of your food is sugar based ]It is an inclination or choice.[it could be automatic or deliberate]Nevertheless..we naturally lean towards the extremes of things.For women...putting on make up,could be a case of layers upon layers,before they are satisfied.I prefer...women who put as little as possible,because the further
away from your natural self..the more of a "painting"you become.And I value..the skill of getting the most ...out of as little as possible.The more you apply,the more a gamble and a risk ..you are taking.And the more apparent it is that ...you either don't know your face well or possess poor make up skills.[even when someone else is doing it for you]I WENT OFF TOPIC..a little THERE.LET ME GET BACK...
Balancing your choices..means taking a little bit of the other side.There is something...to learn from everything.[unless,it is life threatening]The idea of variety...follows after the balance idea.If balance means ..finding the middle ground,then VARIETY means sampling a lot of things.Remember variety is the spice of life.Rest can be boring...but necessary after work.And Balance is the key to sanity and continuity.
MAINTAINING A POSITIVE ENERGY PILOT LIGHT(on the on/off switch)
Most of us have used...those em' gas heaters that need..the pilot light constantly switched on.If your pilot light goes out,because you ran out of gas[or your bill,was not paid]then you have to restart it with...a lot of effort.Happiness is like that...You cannot
afford to run out of positive energy completely.
TRUTH /HAPPINESS RELATIONSHIP
There is a correlation between how ...one views TRUTH,and the levels of HAPPINESS,
he/she experiences.There are three ways ...we normally look at truth.
1.Truth with a little bias ...in our favour.
2.Truth to flatter someone else,and gain us favour.
3.Balanced truth that vilifies you as well as exults you.
Unfortunately,the concept of truth is a relative one.The mechanism that operates..it's
existence in the universe is fluid.What do I mean ?Unless,you have a reference that is
absolute in nature,you cannot confirm without doubt something as ...the TRUTH.You may not agree,but it is true.In our generation,we have embraced more than ever the idea of democracy.[And as much as we can all agree...that it has its merits]Democracy does not have any authority over the TRUTH:everyone except one person ...could be wrong.At one point in time,majority of the human race believed the earth was flat.THEY WERE WRONG ,and one man knew it.It is now known to be a sphere.WHAT HAS THIS GOT ...TO DO WITH,happiness?Well,it is easy to realise early in life that ...an experience can be interpreted in many different ways.Your interpretation is what matters.Sometimes the concept of truth can become confusing and debatable.What could be considered the truth?The summary of ..all the opinions and views?The majority of similar opinions?Or just individual opinions as recognised by the individual themselves ?Your happiness depends upon how ...you view TRUTH.Do you perceive events and experiences ...only how it relates to you positively or negatively [rather than objectively?When you flatter ...someone else,and they accept it as honest;does it become "the truth"between the two of you?There are lots of questions and few answers here.However,my approach is...to balance my perception.I chose...to examine things first from my point of view,and then from the other person's point of view.I try to sit...as a third person observing...as new evidence become relevant:then I decide what I would view as the truth.If this is ..too complex or tedious to comphrend or practice then just understand that...NO-ONE KNOWS EVERYTHING and NO-ONE IS COMPLETELY RIGHT,at any given time.[No-one,including you]Now note that,with faith and religion truth loses its relative nature,and becomes ABSOLUTE.There is now a reference...And you can say,this is the TRUTH .And this is what I believe.It makes sense to me...
MIND SET VS MATERIAL GAIN VS EMOTIONAL STATE VS STATUS GAIN
I am happy..comes from one of these four above.When asked...whether you
are happy or unhappy,most examine those four things above.Have I gained
or increased in my social or political standing recently?hmm?I was aiming to be
accepted or recognised as such and such.Have I achieved that goal?hmm.
If their self reflection is positive,then they conclude ....that they must be happy.
How do I feel today?what state are my hormones today?Has anyone offended
me today?hmm?I need a house...can I get one?Those shoes ...are marvellous,I
must get one,or I would not be ....HAPPY???I am poor,so I cannot be happy;everybody
needs money.So why do you expect me to be happy?hmm.Happiness is
a mindset.IF YOU CHOSE TO BELIEVE,you are a happy person or can be a happy
person,then you will naturally take steps towards happiness.As long as,you do not
make one of the other three...your source of excitement,you would be okay.[they are fickle produces ...of good feelings]Having a Independent positive mindset,is more durable.[THIS DOES NOT MEAN..you cannot be upset]
CHARITY GIVING AND SACRIFICES
It is no secret that,doing things for others gives us good feelings.It is one of the
easiest ways to maintain a high level of happiness.Doing the "right"thing does not
always accomplish the right results.However,you can hold your hand on your heart
and know...your motives were pure.And,that ....more times than not,it achieves happiness.[maybe not satisfaction]
ROMANCE AND HAPPINESS
Romance and relationships play a huge part ...in happiness levels.The heart wants
what it wants...and sometimes it is hard to bare.Nevertheless,the key ...to happiness
in romance and relationships is purity and trust.And,I say purity[as well as the well known trust]because...it is a two way street.If you are being impure and dishonest but
you trust your partner,it is not going to work.PERIOD.And it is unfortunate that...most
relationships base their success upon ....playing mind games.When you have two equally crafty and clever minds....the mind game playing can be sustained for a long period.However,if there is an imbalance...in the ability to play these games,then ...one
or both would suffer.I would advice couples ...to play against others [as a team]In my experience,couples and families that ...stay together,are those that don't play against
each other [at all...zero]They work,and learn from each other ...to play against "outsiders".Now ...that is a true team,and a good plan for happiness.
GAMES AND SPORTS,and sportsmanship
The Brits are known for their mind games.Australians are known for their outdoors activities and games nature.The Germans ...are known for their love of board games.
The Chinese and Japanese are known ...for their crave for physical combat artistry.
The Americans...are known for their video games addictive nature.Holland are known
for their sex games prowess .I am not claiming ...these are authentic and provable statements.It is just my perception.The point...I need to make here,is ...which of these
nations are known to be the happiest?And which is known for its poor happiness index.
Some of those games are really HAPPINESS compatible,and one or two are not...Figure out which is which,for yourselves.
Games,give us an outlet...to expel our aggressive demons.If as human beings..we did
not create these pseudo fights..through evolution,we would have destroyed ourselves by now.WE WOULD BECOME EXTINCT as a specie.Finding an outlet,for your stress,gives you a better chance at being happy.It does not matter what it is...HAPPY READING AND SHARING...AND CONTINUE BEING HAPPY.YOURS truly Austin4sports.com