WHY DO WE DATE ...PEOPLE MORE POPULAR THAN US?
Most of us date...to end up eventually,in relationships.Of Course,there are different
types and durations for relationships.It could be a few minutes FLIRTING ,a one day fling,a few months affair or a long-time (years) marriage .Some..would prefer to date
for the sake of dating;to feel some adventure..and fill in,some leisure time.In both cases,we do choose to date people who are more popular than us.Why?
WHY DO WE NEED ...POPULARITY?
It is very easy...to get attracted to popularity.How many of us...can remember the
kids in the playground who got all the attention?The teachers paid more attention to them.They got crowds ..waiting to play with them.Even at that age...we did not require
our dads and mums,to explain to us that,it was desirable.Now,I need to pause here,to
let you know that ...I was one of those kids.For some reason,at various places,and to varying degrees...I was popular.I am very fortunate to have ...alongside "it"an analytical mind.So I am not carried away ...by the popularity;whether it is the positive fame or negative notoriety.And so,I would be a prime candidate to talk about it without any gloating or arrogance.
1- We need and seek attention in varying degrees.[And what I am doing now,is part of it]We do this because,we are alive ...and want to remain alive.
2-Being popular...seems a more fun way to live.All the entertainers of this world were attracted to their profession because of this fact.
3-Unfortunately,a lot of people would do despicable things to attract popularity.
A whole lot of our reality shows ...are based on this principle.
4-It is important to note that,some personalities are quite the opposite.They would
reject any publicity or limelight (like a bat behaves towards daylight)And...I am not
talking of the shrinking and shy ones.These are socially capable and gifted ones.Some
abhor popularity...on religious basis or the bad reputation that the notion carries these days.
5-Popularity comes naturally to some people.They do not have to work for it.It is like..the heavens opened,once they were born and the light has been following them ever since...On the other hand,some work [to various degrees again]to acquire popularity;and succeed.And some don't succeed.Which sometimes lead to tragic ends.
WE WANT WHAT OTHERS HAVE GOT...
Whether it is ...of use to us or not.Whether it is a bad or good thing,we want
what others have got...And so attention always lies somewhere.If it is ...on someone else,there is no good reason it should not be on us as well.[some believe]
IT IS THE ONLY WAY,TO FEEL YOU BELONG SOMEWHERE
There are very few people among us...who do not fit in anywhere,and don't care.
A bid ...to belong "somewhere"is a natural instinct.And only a few ...have mastered
the power to resist that feeling sometimes.Popularity makes you feel,you matter in a group.If the spotlight is never on you...it makes one feel invisible.And no-one really wants that..?
THERE IS POWER INVOLVED ...
A lust for power can be the reason we seek and crave popularity.As I mentioned
earlier,with the kids.The benefit of having ...many children want to play with you,is
that a couple would be ready to offer gifts and favours...to gain or maintain that privilege.THAT IS ...what some people call ....power.It is not power to change the world
but it can pay for lunch after lunch.And it does not hurt...with the opposite sex relations.
TO HIDE OUR FLAWS
It is funny how...the spotlight can expose your flaws and weaknesses,and yet
popularity makes them disappear.[haha]It does not matter,that David beckham's
Voice is not top notch masculine:he is popular because of other things.How many ..of you would think of his voice first,when his name is mentioned [very pathetic few]
It is not only ...against others that we hide these flaws.We try to forget and hide them from ourselves too.If we are popular to ...enough people,then [we tell ourselves]that
our flaws do not matter,and ignore them.
POPULARITY IMPRESSES STRANGERS AND FRIENDS
I hope ...my sister is not reading this..article.[Anyway,none of them would be sure of who I am talking about]Well...my sister used to come back from school,and sometimes during breaks with,"a legion of friends".And I used to think,"what the FUCK"?[excuse my language]What are they following her for...?Whatever vibe or tricks...she was pulling,I was impressed.AND I SUPPOSE..some people frequently want to achieve that effect,so they seek popularity.I feel burdened by people ...following me around.[i don't know]Maybe I am ...an alien.
Okay,the article ...is about why we date people more popular than us.Yes?Well,you
can figure..out many permutations from the above.It could be ...you want to belong to a certain crowd for a while or permanently,so you date someone who is popular with that crowd.It could be ...you are someone who does not want the limelight,so you date someone who would take that spotlight off you.Naturally,one can be a crowd puller but,it does not necessarily mean...they like what comes along with it.They can date someone who is more popular than themselves,to pull away some of the attention.
And finally,some date more popular people to ...share or learn how to pull followers to themselves.And I could give ...you a prime celebrity example:Kate and Pete...He was
not a "people puller" before he met Kate.[i could be wrong]However,he has subsequently learnt how to attract an entourage.Good or bad?
I am not going ...to be moral,about popularity here,like I do sometimes in my article.You are informed...enough to know what you should or should not do.Good luck,and....I hope you look forward to my next article.It could be ...the big one about HAPPINESS..Haha