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HOW TO MAKE..a DECISION
If you notice,the title does not say “how to take a decision”.For me,that leans more on carrying out a decision already settled in your mind.(And you are looking for the courage or means to execute the decision.)What I am talking about here is,more about judgement.When you have a situation on your hands,how do you go about deciding what to do?I am sure a few of you are familiar with the idea of emotions versus logic.For some;emotions is that warm fuzzy feeling of compassion-those thoughts that take consideration of others.For others it represents uncertainty,mixed views and feelings of everyone else but your own.Sometimes it could be your own system...replaying over and over the myriad of moods you have to deal with,if you take a particular decision;emotion.You feel ill in the stomach not knowing exactly what to do,because you are not being cold hearted with logic.This takes me to the other side of the field.Some people think decisions are meant to be devoid of emotions.They think of logic as the opposite of emotions;cold,calculating and “decisive”.There is no messing about with these kind of people.Things are either white or black(Unlike,emotional people who are clouded by feelings,hormones and considerations for others)Well,none of these things I have mentioned above is complete or accurate.Life is not as simple as that...The fact of the matter is,that we (all)use both when making decisions.Some lean more to the logical side(of course,with the stereotypical definition in mind)And others lean towards the emotional side(of course,also with the stereotypical definition in mind)Now,old habits die hard,so I do not expect anyone to change over night or even agree with me.I am reading this book about how we think,as humans with brains.And it is a fascinating read.(Not that the other books I have read are not fascinating too!)It states a few things we do illogically,while trying to be logical.Also,I listened to a talk on youtube recently about taking irrational logic seriously(Doing something that does not make sense,but works).Now,both sources of information alongside recent personal experience informed this article.And,none had an overriding hand in my decision to write this article because I am only confessing the connection as I realise my subconscious plays a part in my thinking and actions.
Okay!Enough of the deep stuff!I want you to know that many of us cannot make a logical decision without engaging first their emotions.I know.It sounds contradictory but,it is true.We seek to know how things would affect us,how things affected us,and how they are affecting us in the present before we decide to engage our rational mind.And this is okay.As long as you know this is the process that you go through before making a decision,you would be fine.I say this because some of us would swear by the most holiest of things not to involve their emotions,when making critical decisions.And others would swear not to be logical,when deciding important stuff.My message is that,we ought to be both...if we want to be balanced.
Having and showing emotions is not something you need to teach but,it is something you should be proud of...We start at a very early age to get in touch with our emotions.When we are between the ages of 1-2yrs we experience what behavioural scientist refer to as the awareness of physical self.When a kid looks in the mirror and sees...his/her hands waving and realises it belongs to him or her.And then between the ages of 3-6yrs,the awareness of emotional self is developed.So a kid,before this awareness ...is of the knowledge that all the emotions he/she is experiencing is experienced by everyone around him/her.And,after the moment of awareness it becomes clear that his/her emotions are his/her own alone.So we do not need to teach emotions.Unfortunately,the latter stages of development:awareness of concepts and awareness of concrete consciousness are not attained by everyone.So you see people who are still emotionally teenagers while possessing fully adult physical appearances.But,that is not a topic for today!
When we decide to make logical decisions-we are often not aware of the three levels of logical decision making.Kindly,let me enlighten you...I have come to realise that we have three levels of logical choice making-
1-Personal logic,
2-Objective logic
3-Societal logic.
SOCIETAL LOGIC-
Let us start with this one,first!By the name,you can possibly guess what it refers to,in definition.Nevertheless,I am going to tell you.We have come to understand (instinctively and by education)that because we live in groups(a society of some sort)we naturally want or need to think about what others are thinking.Just as individuals, have a way of thinking because of our upbringing and experience,Societies have a way of thinking.This may have arisen due to its history or the nature of the majority of the members.It could also be down to the prevalent culture(which could have been set by its leaders)So societal logic is simply logic applied alongside and in compliance with what everyone else is thinking.And it can be incredibly intimidating!No one wants to be the odd one out,or the black sheep.Some societies can be seriously punitive.But,in my opinion it is the lowest form of logic.When it comes to survival and success,it is the one that least helps an individual.It may not look like it most times but it is the most vulnerable to failure.
OBJECTIVE LOGIC-
Again by nomenclature it is obvious-Isn’t it?This refers to taking away every shred of subjectivity to a situation or problem.If you look at something as an object(not because you or others are involved)If you count the facts like they were simple figures or number:and do the maths.What do you come up with..?I must probably state at this juncture that it is probably at this level that logic has earned it’s cold and calculating reputation.But as you have been reading,it is only one aspect of logic.And,also some would be surprised to hear that it not the highest or most effective logical level.It is pretty effective.It is better than societal logical but less effective than the next one.
PERSONAL LOGIC-
Now,this sounds like a logic that some would refer to as selfish logic.And,there is some truth to it but,it is more than that in definition and practice.And,I must warn that you understand the subtle difference.Because,failure to avoid seeing this as simply selfish logic could take you back to the bottom below societal Logic(a fourth and false level,if you wish..!)Personal logic refers to taking into account all information,facts and evidence available to make a decision that benefits you.Let’s say you have a formula with variables to enter ..to arrive at an answer.One of the variables is that you are indebted to someone(you add,and calculate)the other variable is that you need to protect someone(you add and calculate..)and finally,you add the variable of your future goals and aim:then you calculate.This is what it means ..to apply personal logic.And it is very different from being simply selfish.(Where what you are looking out for,is what you want now,and the future and getting it.And getting away with as little effort as possible)Personal logic looks out for others as well as themselves,because it sees itself as part of society(not an island)And,if anyone is getting confused-Being part of a society does not mean acting like society,every time!
I will now give you examples of each logic level in action.When you see mob rule taking place,societal logic is at work.When you see a robot or computer applying a set of instructions to produce work or solutions,it is applying objective logic.And when you see someone succeeding at every turn of their lives-they are applying personal logic effectively.That is how to make...a decision.Happy reading.This article was written courtesy of austin4sports
If you notice,the title does not say “how to take a decision”.For me,that leans more on carrying out a decision already settled in your mind.(And you are looking for the courage or means to execute the decision.)What I am talking about here is,more about judgement.When you have a situation on your hands,how do you go about deciding what to do?I am sure a few of you are familiar with the idea of emotions versus logic.For some;emotions is that warm fuzzy feeling of compassion-those thoughts that take consideration of others.For others it represents uncertainty,mixed views and feelings of everyone else but your own.Sometimes it could be your own system...replaying over and over the myriad of moods you have to deal with,if you take a particular decision;emotion.You feel ill in the stomach not knowing exactly what to do,because you are not being cold hearted with logic.This takes me to the other side of the field.Some people think decisions are meant to be devoid of emotions.They think of logic as the opposite of emotions;cold,calculating and “decisive”.There is no messing about with these kind of people.Things are either white or black(Unlike,emotional people who are clouded by feelings,hormones and considerations for others)Well,none of these things I have mentioned above is complete or accurate.Life is not as simple as that...The fact of the matter is,that we (all)use both when making decisions.Some lean more to the logical side(of course,with the stereotypical definition in mind)And others lean towards the emotional side(of course,also with the stereotypical definition in mind)Now,old habits die hard,so I do not expect anyone to change over night or even agree with me.I am reading this book about how we think,as humans with brains.And it is a fascinating read.(Not that the other books I have read are not fascinating too!)It states a few things we do illogically,while trying to be logical.Also,I listened to a talk on youtube recently about taking irrational logic seriously(Doing something that does not make sense,but works).Now,both sources of information alongside recent personal experience informed this article.And,none had an overriding hand in my decision to write this article because I am only confessing the connection as I realise my subconscious plays a part in my thinking and actions.
Okay!Enough of the deep stuff!I want you to know that many of us cannot make a logical decision without engaging first their emotions.I know.It sounds contradictory but,it is true.We seek to know how things would affect us,how things affected us,and how they are affecting us in the present before we decide to engage our rational mind.And this is okay.As long as you know this is the process that you go through before making a decision,you would be fine.I say this because some of us would swear by the most holiest of things not to involve their emotions,when making critical decisions.And others would swear not to be logical,when deciding important stuff.My message is that,we ought to be both...if we want to be balanced.
Having and showing emotions is not something you need to teach but,it is something you should be proud of...We start at a very early age to get in touch with our emotions.When we are between the ages of 1-2yrs we experience what behavioural scientist refer to as the awareness of physical self.When a kid looks in the mirror and sees...his/her hands waving and realises it belongs to him or her.And then between the ages of 3-6yrs,the awareness of emotional self is developed.So a kid,before this awareness ...is of the knowledge that all the emotions he/she is experiencing is experienced by everyone around him/her.And,after the moment of awareness it becomes clear that his/her emotions are his/her own alone.So we do not need to teach emotions.Unfortunately,the latter stages of development:awareness of concepts and awareness of concrete consciousness are not attained by everyone.So you see people who are still emotionally teenagers while possessing fully adult physical appearances.But,that is not a topic for today!
When we decide to make logical decisions-we are often not aware of the three levels of logical decision making.Kindly,let me enlighten you...I have come to realise that we have three levels of logical choice making-
1-Personal logic,
2-Objective logic
3-Societal logic.
SOCIETAL LOGIC-
Let us start with this one,first!By the name,you can possibly guess what it refers to,in definition.Nevertheless,I am going to tell you.We have come to understand (instinctively and by education)that because we live in groups(a society of some sort)we naturally want or need to think about what others are thinking.Just as individuals, have a way of thinking because of our upbringing and experience,Societies have a way of thinking.This may have arisen due to its history or the nature of the majority of the members.It could also be down to the prevalent culture(which could have been set by its leaders)So societal logic is simply logic applied alongside and in compliance with what everyone else is thinking.And it can be incredibly intimidating!No one wants to be the odd one out,or the black sheep.Some societies can be seriously punitive.But,in my opinion it is the lowest form of logic.When it comes to survival and success,it is the one that least helps an individual.It may not look like it most times but it is the most vulnerable to failure.
OBJECTIVE LOGIC-
Again by nomenclature it is obvious-Isn’t it?This refers to taking away every shred of subjectivity to a situation or problem.If you look at something as an object(not because you or others are involved)If you count the facts like they were simple figures or number:and do the maths.What do you come up with..?I must probably state at this juncture that it is probably at this level that logic has earned it’s cold and calculating reputation.But as you have been reading,it is only one aspect of logic.And,also some would be surprised to hear that it not the highest or most effective logical level.It is pretty effective.It is better than societal logical but less effective than the next one.
PERSONAL LOGIC-
Now,this sounds like a logic that some would refer to as selfish logic.And,there is some truth to it but,it is more than that in definition and practice.And,I must warn that you understand the subtle difference.Because,failure to avoid seeing this as simply selfish logic could take you back to the bottom below societal Logic(a fourth and false level,if you wish..!)Personal logic refers to taking into account all information,facts and evidence available to make a decision that benefits you.Let’s say you have a formula with variables to enter ..to arrive at an answer.One of the variables is that you are indebted to someone(you add,and calculate)the other variable is that you need to protect someone(you add and calculate..)and finally,you add the variable of your future goals and aim:then you calculate.This is what it means ..to apply personal logic.And it is very different from being simply selfish.(Where what you are looking out for,is what you want now,and the future and getting it.And getting away with as little effort as possible)Personal logic looks out for others as well as themselves,because it sees itself as part of society(not an island)And,if anyone is getting confused-Being part of a society does not mean acting like society,every time!
I will now give you examples of each logic level in action.When you see mob rule taking place,societal logic is at work.When you see a robot or computer applying a set of instructions to produce work or solutions,it is applying objective logic.And when you see someone succeeding at every turn of their lives-they are applying personal logic effectively.That is how to make...a decision.Happy reading.This article was written courtesy of austin4sports
Do you have a higher ethics than Success?
What am I talking about...?I know this question would not make much sense but,let me explain.Success as a notion or a reality does not care about the casualties for it to exist!Or else success would not appear after a certain amount of failures.We all know the Edison quote “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”If we are to assume the numbers are not exaggerated,then it means Success appeared after 10,000 attempts and failures!Do you know how long that is...?To give you an idea,count under your breath from 1 to 10,000.Whatever force that guides or determines success waited for 10,000 times,before it appeared?What?Is that not a bit cruel?Some of us believe in a supreme being.And the question we are asking is...God,why so long?He/she knows best,so what can we say?But,this is the point,I am trying to make...(And I hope I can succeed,at my first attempt ,haha)Some of us have figured out this fact of life.(....this reality)AND SOME OF US HAVE DECIDED TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES ...TO SUCCEED.This is the crux of my question.Do you get it now?Are there boundaries you would not cross,in search of success?Hold on...there ARE two things,that I could easily get mixed up,and result in confusion(for you as well,as myself)There ARE people who would try,try,try and try again...to succeed,but within their ethical and guiding principles!And there are people who would literally try anything that they consider could bring them SUCCESS.Now,these are two different groups,despite the fact that they are motivated by the same REALITY.(vis-à-vis Success does NOT care how many failures you have,before it decides to show up....)So which one are you?
In today’s world,we have ample of examples of celebrities,and ordinary folks(next to me and you...)who have fought with FAILURES,to come out on the other side.Some of us are too shy to tell our stories but,virtually 99% go through some degree of failure,before success reaches its long arm to save us.BUT AT WHAT COST....?When we fail to differentiate those two groups,I mentioned above;we run the risk of having no ethics higher than success.Now,it may be ...a pursuit for happiness,meaning,belonging,money,power,luxurious comfort,fame(or just notoriety).It could even be noble ideas like peace,justice and fairness for everyone.(Or one that most people would agree with...human rights)IT REALLY DOES NOT....MATTER!The question is how far would you go?Blockbuster movies and Drama series ...have played out these questions,and yet we somehow have not grasped the significance in our daily life and choices.It is IMPORTANT,because how you get something is more important than getting it!Let us look at some visible dilemma
MOVIE HEROES:A popular character that everyone knows about is JAMES BOND(And if you are younger,you will be aware of JASONE BOURNE,as well)Now,I love these characters;and I have watched all the instalments but,I cannot help wondering what message some of us are taking from them(With all the violence and psychological manipulation).How many of you are aware of the fact that the producers of JAMES BOND,were worried about the way their lead character seemed to treat his female colleagues.It was discussed,and a gentler approach was adopted.What lengths would you go,to achieve success?In this case,the producers decided to shift their position,and remain within a principle boundary!The product was already hugely popular,so they were risking that success.Their ethics,in this case(to a certain extent)was not higher than success.These things ARE not real,but they are so common and popular we subconsciously project them into our life choices!What BOND did for QUEEN and country;were thy justified?Even some of the instalments address these concerns and dilemma;M asking Bond(Daniel Craig)-why her?she was just doing her job,but she is died now,because of you?(Paraphrasing of course)
In an older instalment,Sean Bean acting as 006,asked Pierce Brosnan 007,do you think what you do for Queen and Country,is different from what I am doing?
POLITICAL LEADERS AND DICTATORS-I do not have to mention names(but,I will..)The recent scenario in Zimbabwe comes to mind:Mugabe is no longer the leader of that African country.I will try hard to avoid colouring the issue here.So tell me,how much was he willing to sacrifice to get his agenda going or perpetuated?Righteous or not...!Justified or not...!How much sacrifice?You know SUCCESS can be like a drug?We can get addicted to it!Don’t get me wrong,I am not advocating laziness or a failure attitude.I am saying put things into prospective.Another,name ...I want to drop,in this piece,is TRUMP(No points for guessing right..!)I have heard a lot of people compare him to HITLER;and a few ...condemn such a comparison.Yes,there is a huge difference between blanket ordering of deaths of Jews,and a careless blanket order to promote the economic prosperity of your people;It comes from the same MOTIVATION-Success at all cost!Is DONALD prepared to kill innocent North Korean lives to ...protect American interests?
OUR FRIENDS and NEIGHBOURS-Look,today’s reality tv,has a lot to answer for....When it first broke out on our television sets;many said,it was just a phase and fashion.Now,we know that is not true.I watch a few...but,it never fails to disgust me,what some are willing to do,to gain...the so called success.You know what I am ...talking about here.Would you do those things,for any amount of money?Would you advice your loved ones to do it?Some would scream,hell yeah!haha.But,jokes apart...desperation can make anyone of us do things,we did not think,we would or could do.And that brings me to the final part of this article.
Even when we realise that there is a difference between pursuing success without caution(Of course,with the knowledge that Success does not care about causalities,so WHY should you...?)AND pursuing success with caution,considering the huge damage that unwarranted side effects could bring-we all could slip ...through that thin veil,without realising it,in the moment.I KNOW IT IS NOT A POPULAR MESSAGE,nowadays to be content with what you have,sometimes.We are living in a go-getter era!If you want it,you can have it-if you are willing to sacrifice for it.Even church preachers have the same message.I am sure ...they do not mean for you to go out,and kill or destroy other people’s lives,(It is a dog eat dog world)but,that is the message some congregation take from the sermons,unfortunately!SOMETIMES,WE OUGHT TO
BELIEVE THAT WHAT WOULD BE,WILL BE...and work towards HAPPINESS and meaning in LIFE,rather than glorified SUCCESS.
This has been a production of Austin4sports.com-Thank you for reading,even if you do not agree...
What am I talking about...?I know this question would not make much sense but,let me explain.Success as a notion or a reality does not care about the casualties for it to exist!Or else success would not appear after a certain amount of failures.We all know the Edison quote “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”If we are to assume the numbers are not exaggerated,then it means Success appeared after 10,000 attempts and failures!Do you know how long that is...?To give you an idea,count under your breath from 1 to 10,000.Whatever force that guides or determines success waited for 10,000 times,before it appeared?What?Is that not a bit cruel?Some of us believe in a supreme being.And the question we are asking is...God,why so long?He/she knows best,so what can we say?But,this is the point,I am trying to make...(And I hope I can succeed,at my first attempt ,haha)Some of us have figured out this fact of life.(....this reality)AND SOME OF US HAVE DECIDED TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES ...TO SUCCEED.This is the crux of my question.Do you get it now?Are there boundaries you would not cross,in search of success?Hold on...there ARE two things,that I could easily get mixed up,and result in confusion(for you as well,as myself)There ARE people who would try,try,try and try again...to succeed,but within their ethical and guiding principles!And there are people who would literally try anything that they consider could bring them SUCCESS.Now,these are two different groups,despite the fact that they are motivated by the same REALITY.(vis-à-vis Success does NOT care how many failures you have,before it decides to show up....)So which one are you?
In today’s world,we have ample of examples of celebrities,and ordinary folks(next to me and you...)who have fought with FAILURES,to come out on the other side.Some of us are too shy to tell our stories but,virtually 99% go through some degree of failure,before success reaches its long arm to save us.BUT AT WHAT COST....?When we fail to differentiate those two groups,I mentioned above;we run the risk of having no ethics higher than success.Now,it may be ...a pursuit for happiness,meaning,belonging,money,power,luxurious comfort,fame(or just notoriety).It could even be noble ideas like peace,justice and fairness for everyone.(Or one that most people would agree with...human rights)IT REALLY DOES NOT....MATTER!The question is how far would you go?Blockbuster movies and Drama series ...have played out these questions,and yet we somehow have not grasped the significance in our daily life and choices.It is IMPORTANT,because how you get something is more important than getting it!Let us look at some visible dilemma
MOVIE HEROES:A popular character that everyone knows about is JAMES BOND(And if you are younger,you will be aware of JASONE BOURNE,as well)Now,I love these characters;and I have watched all the instalments but,I cannot help wondering what message some of us are taking from them(With all the violence and psychological manipulation).How many of you are aware of the fact that the producers of JAMES BOND,were worried about the way their lead character seemed to treat his female colleagues.It was discussed,and a gentler approach was adopted.What lengths would you go,to achieve success?In this case,the producers decided to shift their position,and remain within a principle boundary!The product was already hugely popular,so they were risking that success.Their ethics,in this case(to a certain extent)was not higher than success.These things ARE not real,but they are so common and popular we subconsciously project them into our life choices!What BOND did for QUEEN and country;were thy justified?Even some of the instalments address these concerns and dilemma;M asking Bond(Daniel Craig)-why her?she was just doing her job,but she is died now,because of you?(Paraphrasing of course)
In an older instalment,Sean Bean acting as 006,asked Pierce Brosnan 007,do you think what you do for Queen and Country,is different from what I am doing?
POLITICAL LEADERS AND DICTATORS-I do not have to mention names(but,I will..)The recent scenario in Zimbabwe comes to mind:Mugabe is no longer the leader of that African country.I will try hard to avoid colouring the issue here.So tell me,how much was he willing to sacrifice to get his agenda going or perpetuated?Righteous or not...!Justified or not...!How much sacrifice?You know SUCCESS can be like a drug?We can get addicted to it!Don’t get me wrong,I am not advocating laziness or a failure attitude.I am saying put things into prospective.Another,name ...I want to drop,in this piece,is TRUMP(No points for guessing right..!)I have heard a lot of people compare him to HITLER;and a few ...condemn such a comparison.Yes,there is a huge difference between blanket ordering of deaths of Jews,and a careless blanket order to promote the economic prosperity of your people;It comes from the same MOTIVATION-Success at all cost!Is DONALD prepared to kill innocent North Korean lives to ...protect American interests?
OUR FRIENDS and NEIGHBOURS-Look,today’s reality tv,has a lot to answer for....When it first broke out on our television sets;many said,it was just a phase and fashion.Now,we know that is not true.I watch a few...but,it never fails to disgust me,what some are willing to do,to gain...the so called success.You know what I am ...talking about here.Would you do those things,for any amount of money?Would you advice your loved ones to do it?Some would scream,hell yeah!haha.But,jokes apart...desperation can make anyone of us do things,we did not think,we would or could do.And that brings me to the final part of this article.
Even when we realise that there is a difference between pursuing success without caution(Of course,with the knowledge that Success does not care about causalities,so WHY should you...?)AND pursuing success with caution,considering the huge damage that unwarranted side effects could bring-we all could slip ...through that thin veil,without realising it,in the moment.I KNOW IT IS NOT A POPULAR MESSAGE,nowadays to be content with what you have,sometimes.We are living in a go-getter era!If you want it,you can have it-if you are willing to sacrifice for it.Even church preachers have the same message.I am sure ...they do not mean for you to go out,and kill or destroy other people’s lives,(It is a dog eat dog world)but,that is the message some congregation take from the sermons,unfortunately!SOMETIMES,WE OUGHT TO
BELIEVE THAT WHAT WOULD BE,WILL BE...and work towards HAPPINESS and meaning in LIFE,rather than glorified SUCCESS.
This has been a production of Austin4sports.com-Thank you for reading,even if you do not agree...
HOW TO TALK ABOUT yourself...WITHOUT SOUNDING LIKE A FOOL;
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It sounds,like a very arrogant thing to do sometimes-talk about yourself.Also,I have heard it said so many times that,everyone likes talking about themselves.So there is a conflict,somewhere.If we like talking about ourselves but society perceive it as a negative.How do we perpetuate this deep seated need,without coming off anti social. Most of us restrict this kind of behaviour to our inner circle.But,why do you think,this may be true?Why do we talk about ourselves?
a.We know ourselves more ...than we know any other topic:
b.Talking about ourselves expands our universe;by the factor of the number of people you talk to..
c.It is an easier way to let go of issues...
d.It is a nice way to keep reminding yourself of something.
e.It is the easiest creative process..
The easiest way to learn about talking about yourself,is from a profession called Stand up comedy. It is hard to understand the nature of the people involved in this profession,if you have never talked to them. For those who are not quite sure what it entails:It is a profession where someone earns a living by talking to a paying audience by making them laugh .People in this profession go on tour,sell out auditorium and stadiums mostly to talk about themselves.And we leave ,entertained..It is not an easy business.If you were wondering!It is very tasking!
Unlike musicians, the material needs to be fresh and authentic. But,someone would say Austin4sports ...Comedians lie on stage?Yes,they do...but they have to be believable;that is what I mean by authentic. Even musicians soon realise that the closer their material seems to reflect their true lives the more their fans buy their music.In a profession that entails talking about yourselves over and over again:spanning years and years of their career. It becomes important to figure out how to talk about yourself without sounding like an arrogant git or douchebag!So here are a few tips ...to help you talk in social circles,without sounding like you are a whole different species of your own.
1=UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE...
First,of all..you have got to know exactly,what you are made of:there is no point in talking and talking,if you are unsure of yourself.And this does not mean,you would not make mistakes,it just means that,you would be aware of the kind you make,and the ones ...that you rarely do.
2=KNOW WHO YOU ARE TALKING TO...
The second important fact,is somehow obvious-you have to know who you are talking to...If the person you are talking to likes to talk about themselves more than you do,then it would be foolish...to hug the limelight all for yourself.As they would be like a dog waiting for the bone or ball to be tossed,so they can run after it.And they would hardly pay attention (to what you are saying)until you do.
3=MAKE PLEASING YOUR AUDIENCE THE GOAL...
One sure way,to come off...arrogant and self centred is to focus on yourself and your satisfaction.You see,there is a way to talk about yourself with the intention of pleasing or entertaining those around you(And there is a way to focus on your own itching!).Also,if you use the style or approach that stand up comedians use,then you are likely to use the self deprecating one!I personally,don’t find it comfortable,so I would suggest ...my style:simply be honest.I understand it may be difficult to apply this style because one ...could easily say the wrong thing.(Especially,if you know that the wrong thing,is what preoccupies your mind,most of the time)However if you have almost nothing to mask,then the freedom can be very liberating and powerful.And not the least of all,it can be very effective.
4=DO NOT EXAGGERATE
In continuation of the honesty thing-it is important that you do not exaggerate the facts. Why would you?Well,to look better than you actually are in reality?To fill in the gaps,when there appears to be nothing left to say?And maybe ...to distract or manipulate others?Exaggerating facts about yourself,is one of the easiest ways to turn off people.It is especially catastrophic,if you are found out...
5=CHANGE TOPICS...
Now,to a point that is more positive:change topics!If you are going to talk about yourself constantly,please vary the content of your conversation. You cannot keep talking about your...ex,or money,or even your boss!It does not matter how loyal or willing your hearer is...sooner or later that one topic machine gun,would be turned around and aimed at you!Please,vary what you say about yourself.And avoid...repeating phrases or statements!
Some examples include:You understand...Listen! or alright!and my favourite...you know!Eliminate them,and you would not sound like..you are constantly thinking about yourself,all the time.You are talking about yourself but,you entertaining....others!
6=GIVE THEM OPPORTUNITY TO RESPOND...
One mistake ...over inflated egos make,when talking about themselves is denying others the opportunity to speak.Even professional stand up comedians know,they have to engage the audience.Sometimes they give the audience the microphone,or they ask questions,and tell them ...to elaborate.If you make all the other mistakes and still manage to obey this one,you would probably be bearable!
7=LISTEN TO YOURSELF...
Sometimes it is considered a mild form of madness,to talk to yourself. However,there is a huge benefit that goes along with it,sometimes. You learn to understand what you sound like...Just imagine,someone who does not hear the screeching tone in their voice.If they do not realise it,then others showing apathy to hearing their voice would be interpreted as something else.If you go outside without checking how you look,sooner or later you would get looks ...that could kill!It is important to hear yourself,talking...while conversing.(Because trust me,some don’t hear themselves talk...)You check yourself,when you are about to cross the line.And you can drive your ‘car’in your lane without causing ‘accidents’all over the place,while you are talking.
Contrary,to what society projects...talking about yourself is necessary and essential to enlightenment and civilisation.It is one of the ways we get to grow as a human society.It strengthens the human spirit.It allows us to shine as mirrors,as well as see ourselves as others see us.It is one of the truisms that makes us human.
This article was written by the editor of austin4sports.com ,thanks for taking
your precious time,to read it.
WHAT is ...in A name?
WHAT IS ...IN A NAME?
I will start with an incident that baffled me to the core.I could not believe what
I just heard or witnessed!I was not sure whether I was supposed to laugh or be sad?
What is going on??I have a back-ground study of industrial chemistry at the university level,so bare with me ...to the degree of shock,I felt during this incident.I walked up
to a local corner shop,to purchase a few items.While I was considering what I wanted
and ...what I really needed:a small young boy walked briskly past to the counter,and
asked"Sir,do you have TOXIC WASTE?Okay...I put the 'sir' in the quote there.No kid nowadays says sir.(And that is another thing!Maybe for another topic..another day?)Yeah ...he definitely said TOXIC WASTE!!I said to myself:did I hear correctly?Before I could finish my contemplation,the shop-keeper said No!,and the boy dashed
back out of the shop.I looked at the shop-keeper(I have had a few conversations,with him in the past...so he was not surprised with my familiarity disposition)and said,did
that boy just say "toxic waste"hahaaa..My God!What in heaven's name is toxic waste been referred to here.He looked at me,without any element of surprise or occasion,and said...Oh!yeah it is a sweet;a sour tasting sweet that kids love.So I could not withhold the next question that popped into mind.So I asked him"so what you are telling me is that a company went through the whole process of naming their product,and they came up with TOXIC WASTE?First of all toxic is bad on its own.(I know Britney Spears made it sound cool,in one of her songs,just like the late Micheal Jackson made the word "bad" sound good!)But toxic means ...Poisonous,and harmful to come in contact with....As a student of Industrial chemistry,we ran(I mean ran away...)from any bottle marked toxic.So you accommodate the word TOXIC,and then you add waste?And we are supposed to imagine something,edible and nice?Phew!Is nobody else questioning the ethics here,or have we all lost our sensitivity because of
the hardship of life?We are so baffled by the sheer confusion of world politics,and ...daily hypocrisy and selfishness,we no longer care about the future we
are leaving for our kids?What world are we building for them??We seem to be walking head straight into a disastrous world,that most of the creators(the older generation)are not going to be around to see....The poor poor kids,have no idea what is waiting for them!Of course,a few of us believe,that humans are very adaptable creatures;they will survive.I agree some will survive but what would be the nature of
that survival?I would not want my kids to live in a universe that turns them literally into robots!(glued to electronic devices,and served by AI managed robots?)It sounds fantastic and luxurious to many but,I would tell you this for nothing;it is not going to be fun,trust me!What has this got to do with,the topic "what is in a name"?
I have a colleague who recently celebrated having a baby:and they gave her a wonderful name.In my culture;I am from the Igbo culture from Nigeria (west Africa)If
you have not already gathered that from my surname.In my culture,we value the power of a name.It symbolises the hopes and values that we hold for ourselves and our loved ones.Now,in the western world it is less of a thing,with people known as Mr white or green?Even in those very general names,there lies underneath some meaning adhered to by the owners.When we lose ...adherence to the meaning of things:words and names,it is the first meaningful step to a world of chaos!It sounds dramatic from me but,you can only look at what is happening right now!Someone who loses an election is calling himself a winner;and declaring he would be prime minister in six months(Does he mean it?)Who cares...?Why?Because things do not mean what they used to...We live in an era of fake news!What is real and what is not real?I do not want to get too political or pessimistic(here) in this article but the optimism or hope lies in more of us,fighting against a meaningless world.Just because there is an inevitable landslide towards chaos,does not mean we should go with the flow!
We are rational creatures with our destiny largely in our own hands.We create that
destiny by the foundation we build.I guess my colleague (and the parents of someone I had a little "creationist"spat with...)knew this fact.You cannot run away from your destiny.And one way of creating a foundation of a destiny,is in the name you call something.The bible says in Genesis,that God gave man the responsibility to name the rest of his creation.HOW ARE WE(humans) doing,so far?When we turn names on their heads;it is a recipe for disaster.I guess it is one of the many things I am glad that my parents did for me;they gave me some wonderful names.And I hope to live up to them,and wear them proudly.Thanks for reading- Austin4sports.com
I will start with an incident that baffled me to the core.I could not believe what
I just heard or witnessed!I was not sure whether I was supposed to laugh or be sad?
What is going on??I have a back-ground study of industrial chemistry at the university level,so bare with me ...to the degree of shock,I felt during this incident.I walked up
to a local corner shop,to purchase a few items.While I was considering what I wanted
and ...what I really needed:a small young boy walked briskly past to the counter,and
asked"Sir,do you have TOXIC WASTE?Okay...I put the 'sir' in the quote there.No kid nowadays says sir.(And that is another thing!Maybe for another topic..another day?)Yeah ...he definitely said TOXIC WASTE!!I said to myself:did I hear correctly?Before I could finish my contemplation,the shop-keeper said No!,and the boy dashed
back out of the shop.I looked at the shop-keeper(I have had a few conversations,with him in the past...so he was not surprised with my familiarity disposition)and said,did
that boy just say "toxic waste"hahaaa..My God!What in heaven's name is toxic waste been referred to here.He looked at me,without any element of surprise or occasion,and said...Oh!yeah it is a sweet;a sour tasting sweet that kids love.So I could not withhold the next question that popped into mind.So I asked him"so what you are telling me is that a company went through the whole process of naming their product,and they came up with TOXIC WASTE?First of all toxic is bad on its own.(I know Britney Spears made it sound cool,in one of her songs,just like the late Micheal Jackson made the word "bad" sound good!)But toxic means ...Poisonous,and harmful to come in contact with....As a student of Industrial chemistry,we ran(I mean ran away...)from any bottle marked toxic.So you accommodate the word TOXIC,and then you add waste?And we are supposed to imagine something,edible and nice?Phew!Is nobody else questioning the ethics here,or have we all lost our sensitivity because of
the hardship of life?We are so baffled by the sheer confusion of world politics,and ...daily hypocrisy and selfishness,we no longer care about the future we
are leaving for our kids?What world are we building for them??We seem to be walking head straight into a disastrous world,that most of the creators(the older generation)are not going to be around to see....The poor poor kids,have no idea what is waiting for them!Of course,a few of us believe,that humans are very adaptable creatures;they will survive.I agree some will survive but what would be the nature of
that survival?I would not want my kids to live in a universe that turns them literally into robots!(glued to electronic devices,and served by AI managed robots?)It sounds fantastic and luxurious to many but,I would tell you this for nothing;it is not going to be fun,trust me!What has this got to do with,the topic "what is in a name"?
I have a colleague who recently celebrated having a baby:and they gave her a wonderful name.In my culture;I am from the Igbo culture from Nigeria (west Africa)If
you have not already gathered that from my surname.In my culture,we value the power of a name.It symbolises the hopes and values that we hold for ourselves and our loved ones.Now,in the western world it is less of a thing,with people known as Mr white or green?Even in those very general names,there lies underneath some meaning adhered to by the owners.When we lose ...adherence to the meaning of things:words and names,it is the first meaningful step to a world of chaos!It sounds dramatic from me but,you can only look at what is happening right now!Someone who loses an election is calling himself a winner;and declaring he would be prime minister in six months(Does he mean it?)Who cares...?Why?Because things do not mean what they used to...We live in an era of fake news!What is real and what is not real?I do not want to get too political or pessimistic(here) in this article but the optimism or hope lies in more of us,fighting against a meaningless world.Just because there is an inevitable landslide towards chaos,does not mean we should go with the flow!
We are rational creatures with our destiny largely in our own hands.We create that
destiny by the foundation we build.I guess my colleague (and the parents of someone I had a little "creationist"spat with...)knew this fact.You cannot run away from your destiny.And one way of creating a foundation of a destiny,is in the name you call something.The bible says in Genesis,that God gave man the responsibility to name the rest of his creation.HOW ARE WE(humans) doing,so far?When we turn names on their heads;it is a recipe for disaster.I guess it is one of the many things I am glad that my parents did for me;they gave me some wonderful names.And I hope to live up to them,and wear them proudly.Thanks for reading- Austin4sports.com
LUST:demonic EMOTION or natural experience?
LUST...uuuhhh:A demonic emotion or a natural experience?
WE are playing with fire ...here!haha!Now like a magician can perform
fire throwing acts,and not get burnt,I am defying the odds to talk about
a controversial topic.If you have been following my website posts,you would
have undoubtedly come across...some of my quotes!My quotes are not
censored per say...I post whatever I think is true and necessary .This is irrespective
of the sensitive nature.I have posted quotes about flirting and pleasure.
(If I am not ...mistaken!)Anyway,a few eyebrows may have been raised as to
how my views can be reconciled with the other very religious content?Well,it
would be wise of such readers to continue reading down this article,and perhaps
they may come to some understanding.
Before I continue writing this article,I want to warn you about some things that I may throw into the mix.I would occasionally quote the bible and I would also copy dictionary definitions.If any of those two excerpts is likely to offend you ,then it may be advisable for you...to press that "x" button at the far corner.But, before you do that,just remember that I may be saying something here that may save your life or lifestyle (Or that of a close person to you)And also,do not assume that I am taking a self righteous tone,in this ...article!It is quite the opposite;I have made my share of mistakes,and perhaps..unfortunately could make more.So I don't intend to preach here.Rather I intend to share...something I discovered,that can HELP everyone(myself included)
Now,let us get to the nitty gritty of this hot potato!Yes?Lust,Lust ...lust!Now,don't think I don't notice the look in those eyes?Whether you are a guy or a gal(Some of
us can tell,when the 'film' is rolling at the back of your mind)So please do me a favour,and don't excuse yourself from this ...The more you pretend,the more it shows...
Lust is a strong emotion or feeling. The lust can take any form such as the lust for sex, lust for expensive objects (extravagance) or the lust for power. It can take such mundane forms as the lust for food as distinct from the need for food. Lust is a psychological force producing intense wanting for an object, or circumstance fulfilling the emotion.So Lust in general,is not precluded to sexual lust(I hope you already know this...Or all the money your parents spent on education has been wasted!) In this article...we are specifically talking about the lust of the sexual nature.(Even though,quite frankly,I would not mind talking about the lust for power,hmmm!)Let's continue before I get distracted.There is a genuine mistake made about lust.And thankfully,it is beginning to clear out a bit.We often assume that quotes like this one
in ...Titus 2:11 "For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age, looking for the blessed hope and glorious appearing of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself His own special people, zealous for good works."means that the holier you get the less lust you experience or feel.Ehh!Bullshit!(Excuse my language)The fact is that...the more clean living you attempt,the more your key weakness..would prop up...Jesus was not particularly interested in the type of sin you committed.He wanted you to learn to put all your trust and faith in him!As long as you are in this flesh,you would have lustful seconds,minutes,hours or even years,unfortunately.So what is the remedy that I have brought today?Because ...it would be cruel to diagnose the situation,and leave you in a confused state.Sexual lust has two forms;I FANCY YOU and I WANT TO CONQUER YOU.Let us not forget that Lust in a committed relationship(And I would go further,and say a married one!)is a good thing!Some would say...Austin,that is love,not lust!Whatever!When you are thinking of tearing someone's cloth off..without regard for whether they are ready or not...I SAY THAT IS LUST,my brother and my sister!It is under the coverage of Love,yes!but it's nature is a lustful one. I FANCY YOU...is saying in a very succinct way that..I am interested in you either,physically,emotionally,mentally or spiritually.(Or all of the above!)And I have noticed that you feel the same way!(At least a significant fraction of it...)And this means..I do not really need to CONQUER you but,I still WANT to be with you.This is what I FANCY you is saying...It is the good type of lust,because it is the type of lust that keeps partners together,for long long periods.The not so good type is the ..I WANT TO CONQUER you type of Lust.This is not entirely wrong because,if you are a red blooded human being,you will feel or sense it from time to time.(The more you ...occupy your mind,with holy thoughts,the less...of course!)The good thing about it is that,if you understand it's nature...you would be able to avoid it's pitfalls.I WANT TO CONQUER YOU lust says...I want to conquer you either intellectually,physically,socially or morally (Or all of the above)and it is manifesting itself through a sexual drive but,when I do ...I do not want to have anything to do with you because,I really do not fancy you.SO THERE YOU HAVE IT;it is small but it is crucial!If it was big...I would have written a whole book about it but it is not much...so it goes here.If you are wondering how this helps you...GIVE IT SOME TIME.Just remember that confusing or mixing the two up,can lead to very very bad decisions..Thanks for reading.happy bank holiday!austin4sports
WE are playing with fire ...here!haha!Now like a magician can perform
fire throwing acts,and not get burnt,I am defying the odds to talk about
a controversial topic.If you have been following my website posts,you would
have undoubtedly come across...some of my quotes!My quotes are not
censored per say...I post whatever I think is true and necessary .This is irrespective
of the sensitive nature.I have posted quotes about flirting and pleasure.
(If I am not ...mistaken!)Anyway,a few eyebrows may have been raised as to
how my views can be reconciled with the other very religious content?Well,it
would be wise of such readers to continue reading down this article,and perhaps
they may come to some understanding.
Before I continue writing this article,I want to warn you about some things that I may throw into the mix.I would occasionally quote the bible and I would also copy dictionary definitions.If any of those two excerpts is likely to offend you ,then it may be advisable for you...to press that "x" button at the far corner.But, before you do that,just remember that I may be saying something here that may save your life or lifestyle (Or that of a close person to you)And also,do not assume that I am taking a self righteous tone,in this ...article!It is quite the opposite;I have made my share of mistakes,and perhaps..unfortunately could make more.So I don't intend to preach here.Rather I intend to share...something I discovered,that can HELP everyone(myself included)
Now,let us get to the nitty gritty of this hot potato!Yes?Lust,Lust ...lust!Now,don't think I don't notice the look in those eyes?Whether you are a guy or a gal(Some of
us can tell,when the 'film' is rolling at the back of your mind)So please do me a favour,and don't excuse yourself from this ...The more you pretend,the more it shows...
Lust is a strong emotion or feeling. The lust can take any form such as the lust for sex, lust for expensive objects (extravagance) or the lust for power. It can take such mundane forms as the lust for food as distinct from the need for food. Lust is a psychological force producing intense wanting for an object, or circumstance fulfilling the emotion.So Lust in general,is not precluded to sexual lust(I hope you already know this...Or all the money your parents spent on education has been wasted!) In this article...we are specifically talking about the lust of the sexual nature.(Even though,quite frankly,I would not mind talking about the lust for power,hmmm!)Let's continue before I get distracted.There is a genuine mistake made about lust.And thankfully,it is beginning to clear out a bit.We often assume that quotes like this one
in ...Titus 2:11 "For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age, looking for the blessed hope and glorious appearing of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from every lawless deed and purify for Himself His own special people, zealous for good works."means that the holier you get the less lust you experience or feel.Ehh!Bullshit!(Excuse my language)The fact is that...the more clean living you attempt,the more your key weakness..would prop up...Jesus was not particularly interested in the type of sin you committed.He wanted you to learn to put all your trust and faith in him!As long as you are in this flesh,you would have lustful seconds,minutes,hours or even years,unfortunately.So what is the remedy that I have brought today?Because ...it would be cruel to diagnose the situation,and leave you in a confused state.Sexual lust has two forms;I FANCY YOU and I WANT TO CONQUER YOU.Let us not forget that Lust in a committed relationship(And I would go further,and say a married one!)is a good thing!Some would say...Austin,that is love,not lust!Whatever!When you are thinking of tearing someone's cloth off..without regard for whether they are ready or not...I SAY THAT IS LUST,my brother and my sister!It is under the coverage of Love,yes!but it's nature is a lustful one. I FANCY YOU...is saying in a very succinct way that..I am interested in you either,physically,emotionally,mentally or spiritually.(Or all of the above!)And I have noticed that you feel the same way!(At least a significant fraction of it...)And this means..I do not really need to CONQUER you but,I still WANT to be with you.This is what I FANCY you is saying...It is the good type of lust,because it is the type of lust that keeps partners together,for long long periods.The not so good type is the ..I WANT TO CONQUER you type of Lust.This is not entirely wrong because,if you are a red blooded human being,you will feel or sense it from time to time.(The more you ...occupy your mind,with holy thoughts,the less...of course!)The good thing about it is that,if you understand it's nature...you would be able to avoid it's pitfalls.I WANT TO CONQUER YOU lust says...I want to conquer you either intellectually,physically,socially or morally (Or all of the above)and it is manifesting itself through a sexual drive but,when I do ...I do not want to have anything to do with you because,I really do not fancy you.SO THERE YOU HAVE IT;it is small but it is crucial!If it was big...I would have written a whole book about it but it is not much...so it goes here.If you are wondering how this helps you...GIVE IT SOME TIME.Just remember that confusing or mixing the two up,can lead to very very bad decisions..Thanks for reading.happy bank holiday!austin4sports
NOBILIITY:the lost notion?
NOBILITY;the lost notion?
Nobility is the quality of being noble.We say she is a woman of nobility and learning.
A man could also be said to be of nobility;the quality of belonging to the aristocracy.
What does it mean to be ..noble?As an adjective ...it means,belonging by rank,title or birth to the aristocracy.It also means(and sometimes implied ...when one belongs to the aristocracy)having or showing fine personal qualities or high moral principles.
When it qualifies an inanimate object,it refers..to imposing or magnificent size or appearance.And when it qualifies...both animate and inanimate objects,it refers to
something of excellent or superior quality.OKAY,moving away from the fundamental
and boring bits...What has this got to do with us,and present day living.I don't know...now but,let's find out together.
Let's say,you were a priest,Rabbi,pastor or some religious authority.And one of your duties or roles was to preside over a wedding.Yes..Are you with me,so far...?
And this ...young lady arranges to get married in your custody.The big day arrives and everyone is sitting down.Here we go!...The bride is about to come out!..And suddenly,there is a loud knock on the door,bang!bang!No one moves...(Perhaps no one wants to damage the creases on their dresses or gowns)So the presiding religious man walks all the way up to the door...and opens it.And in front of him stands an elderly gentle man.He does not look..happy or cheerful.The (let's us say Rabbi..)says to him,"yes,can we help?"And the man takes..less than three minutes to explain that he is the father of the bride.NOW STOP!(I know...many of you would immediately ask,what?How is he not in the picture already?How can ..a wedding be
commissioned without his consent?Well,my friends and readers..welcome to 2017)
And he also explains...that he is estranged from his beautiful daughter but,he could not keep himself away from this important day.The pastor looks at him and says "wait here a minute".He goes to the enclosed room where the bride is puzzled at the delay,and explains the reason.Immediately,she flares up...with an uncontrollable fit and rage,and warns the the priest not to dare allow him in...And she threatens to quit,if he is allowed into the building.The presiding religious man pleads on the behalf of the father but,she is adamant.And so he walks back to the door,distraught.And he explains with a heavy heart to the father..what the daughter demanded.As the father turns his back,and walks away...the Rabbi is full of sorrow.How does he speak of love in the next two to fifteen minutes,when he has just witnessed the exact opposite?Well the show must go on...He is contracted to perform his role and service to the people who request it.The service feels very hollow but it is conducted efficiently.Two years down the line,the incident is still on his conscience,so he scrambles around for her phone number.He finds it.And then he eagerly calls...her.She picks up the phone,but bangs it down again on realising who it was on the line.The pastor is confused.So he askes around about the couple and recent developments.He finds out that the daughter had reconciled with the father,and was now angry with the rabbi.The rabbi is hurt but he quickly realised that the important thing is that she is back with her father and the marriage took place.
The noble acts that persons in authority,perform everyday...are countless.And I presume there will be more ...acts till the end of the world .However,the nature of noble acts is that..the people who perform them do not seek congratulations or accolades for their acts.They are personalities with high moral principles.And every act is a personal victory rather than a show of superiority.So ...my question today is,how do we perceive the world today?With extreme egotistic voices ..pronouncing acts of charity and "goodness".With majority of people believing that the world is full of selfish people only.And even a greater percentage of people living by the ethos that only the thieves,liars,bullies and chronically selfish and quarrelsome succeed in life.If you are good at back stabbing,you will get ahead?The movies portray it,and the magazines celebrate it.Where has nobility as a notion gone?I say it is still there...And it would continue to be there because of its nature.
The question for me..and my readers is,where do we wish to stand?On the side of badly gotten success and progress or noble soul satisfying achievements?It is not easy.By no means..I guess you are either nobility or you are not...austin4sports.com
and austin4sports.co.uk
Nobility is the quality of being noble.We say she is a woman of nobility and learning.
A man could also be said to be of nobility;the quality of belonging to the aristocracy.
What does it mean to be ..noble?As an adjective ...it means,belonging by rank,title or birth to the aristocracy.It also means(and sometimes implied ...when one belongs to the aristocracy)having or showing fine personal qualities or high moral principles.
When it qualifies an inanimate object,it refers..to imposing or magnificent size or appearance.And when it qualifies...both animate and inanimate objects,it refers to
something of excellent or superior quality.OKAY,moving away from the fundamental
and boring bits...What has this got to do with us,and present day living.I don't know...now but,let's find out together.
Let's say,you were a priest,Rabbi,pastor or some religious authority.And one of your duties or roles was to preside over a wedding.Yes..Are you with me,so far...?
And this ...young lady arranges to get married in your custody.The big day arrives and everyone is sitting down.Here we go!...The bride is about to come out!..And suddenly,there is a loud knock on the door,bang!bang!No one moves...(Perhaps no one wants to damage the creases on their dresses or gowns)So the presiding religious man walks all the way up to the door...and opens it.And in front of him stands an elderly gentle man.He does not look..happy or cheerful.The (let's us say Rabbi..)says to him,"yes,can we help?"And the man takes..less than three minutes to explain that he is the father of the bride.NOW STOP!(I know...many of you would immediately ask,what?How is he not in the picture already?How can ..a wedding be
commissioned without his consent?Well,my friends and readers..welcome to 2017)
And he also explains...that he is estranged from his beautiful daughter but,he could not keep himself away from this important day.The pastor looks at him and says "wait here a minute".He goes to the enclosed room where the bride is puzzled at the delay,and explains the reason.Immediately,she flares up...with an uncontrollable fit and rage,and warns the the priest not to dare allow him in...And she threatens to quit,if he is allowed into the building.The presiding religious man pleads on the behalf of the father but,she is adamant.And so he walks back to the door,distraught.And he explains with a heavy heart to the father..what the daughter demanded.As the father turns his back,and walks away...the Rabbi is full of sorrow.How does he speak of love in the next two to fifteen minutes,when he has just witnessed the exact opposite?Well the show must go on...He is contracted to perform his role and service to the people who request it.The service feels very hollow but it is conducted efficiently.Two years down the line,the incident is still on his conscience,so he scrambles around for her phone number.He finds it.And then he eagerly calls...her.She picks up the phone,but bangs it down again on realising who it was on the line.The pastor is confused.So he askes around about the couple and recent developments.He finds out that the daughter had reconciled with the father,and was now angry with the rabbi.The rabbi is hurt but he quickly realised that the important thing is that she is back with her father and the marriage took place.
The noble acts that persons in authority,perform everyday...are countless.And I presume there will be more ...acts till the end of the world .However,the nature of noble acts is that..the people who perform them do not seek congratulations or accolades for their acts.They are personalities with high moral principles.And every act is a personal victory rather than a show of superiority.So ...my question today is,how do we perceive the world today?With extreme egotistic voices ..pronouncing acts of charity and "goodness".With majority of people believing that the world is full of selfish people only.And even a greater percentage of people living by the ethos that only the thieves,liars,bullies and chronically selfish and quarrelsome succeed in life.If you are good at back stabbing,you will get ahead?The movies portray it,and the magazines celebrate it.Where has nobility as a notion gone?I say it is still there...And it would continue to be there because of its nature.
The question for me..and my readers is,where do we wish to stand?On the side of badly gotten success and progress or noble soul satisfying achievements?It is not easy.By no means..I guess you are either nobility or you are not...austin4sports.com
and austin4sports.co.uk
RULEs;What is their place....in society?
RULES
What are rules?We can classify ...regulations,restrictions,guidelines,controlling advice and self imposed principles... as rules.Why do we even...need rules?How do we respond to rules..as individuals and as a collective society?Who should make our rules?When is a rule fair..and when is a rule unfair?
There are...more questions about rules but,we shall...satisfy our curiosity for the meanwhile with the aforementioned .
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Why do we need rules?
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I think...we need rules to help us live productive lifestyles.The universe...we inhabit is a limited and restrictive one.It places...questionable and unquestionable rules upon its habitants.If this...was not the case everyone would be able to do anything and everything.It would create complete chaos and anarchy.As much as our childish imaginations...would crave such an environment;the odds are that,it would rapidly lead to self destruction.Whoever or whatever has created us ...has had the intelligence and grace to place restrictions on our behaviour as
long as possible for our own survival and benefit.It can be argued that we are ..
on a path to destruction anyway.However,the process of self destruction is slowed down by the restrictive forces we have to obey.One cannot put a price on the benefits of having rules...in our lives.There are guidelines ...to not kill each other;and there are
guidelines for seeking what we need to survive.If there were no rules..the strong
would eat up the weak,before they had a chance to become strong ,themselves.There would be no...diversity.The world would be a boring place,if not a completely desolate one.
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How do we respond to rules?
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And how should we...start to respond to rules?It is..an interesting thought to ponder.In my lifetime...I have seen a lot of responses,to this automated system of rules.Some obey with...neck breaking speed.At the sound of a command from anyone...they start to jump the hoops.Some learn to find,loop holes that would benefit their survival.And some make new rules ..that they feel comfortable obeying.They do this by...interpreting already existing rules...in a way that would suit their purposes.And some create their own completely new rules,while claiming to still obey the established rules.It does not matter,what reaction or response you have to rules,as long as it is satisfying your needs and wants,on the short and long term.And it is important to understand that there are rules that supersede other rules.In the process of obeying a superior rule...you are likely to disobey,bend,re-interpret...or find loop holes in an inferior rule.It is the nature of our universe and society.
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Why is the talk of rules important,anyway?
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Can we live our lives without question,and forget about analysing every abstract notion....that comes into our little brains?In the recent past ,the news and headlines have been dominated by child abusers,financial misdemeanour and power riggers.It is not a new thing.Nevertheless,there is an increasing debate about where we should draw the line and boundary of our rules.Is it society's responsibility to draw the format for our ethical behaviour ?Or should it be left to each individual to form their own morality and ethics.I am sure there are a lot of schools of thought.I think it is important to let the younger generation understand the importance rules play in working society,or we risk losing grip.
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Who should make rules?
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It is a no brainer,that everyone should make rules for themselves.You know best what goals are important to you,than anyone else.I saw a funny but thought provoking antidote on a social media platform that said..."whatever you do ,give it your 100 percent,unless it is donating blood".The point is that,it should be obvious where we should draw the line for ourselves.And if you are having problems discerning what to do ;it would be wise to have a reliable support system.I think...the big problem is more about rules for society in general.Who gets to make them...?And why...??Who killed God or Mother Nature and made them supreme rule maker???During the time of the prophets and holy men;their colleagues and fellow men questioned their authority.And it still happens now.We find ourselves asking,what gives anyone the right to tell us what we can and cannot do..?And my answer or suggestion is..that those who have shown a distinct upper hand in whatever it is...society wishes to achieve,should have the right.It could be economical,physical,moral,political or sexual.Who among us would like to take tips about fitness from a physically unfit person?Who would like to take financial tips from a broke individual?Who would like to take conscience tips from a morally bankrupt mind?Who would like to take sexual performance tips from a virgin?Or finally,who would like to take political tips from someone who cannot convince themselves of anything or make decisive arguments?We know the answer to these questions but it is important to note that,they may still hold valuable knowledge,it is just that they do not have the RIGHT to tell you anything,as they do not have either authority or expertise.We live in a world where everyone is an expert of everything.It should be that..experts make rules for society and...you get to decide rules for yourselves!
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When is a rule fair..And when is a rule unfair?
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Following from the argument and points made above;it is important to understand the nature of the rules,in our homes,offices and playgrounds.In law,sports and relationships,when is a rule fair?A rule is fair,when it takes into account the opportunities and potentials of everyone involved.It should offer ..equal and even
access to satisfying everyone's need.If you are observant,you will notice I did not use the word 'want"...The word 'want' denotes unrealistic and projected "needs".We often 'want' what we think we need in certain specific conditions and projected imaginary future.And no practical structure or plan can account for that,adequately.So a fair rule takes into account practical needs of everyone.And an unfair rule,caters for a privileged or selected few...Now I know of a few maxims or attitudes that foster unfair rules.And it is ..a very dangerous reason a lot of intelligent minds lend their efforts to perpetuating unfair rules.Maxims like ...It is a dog eat dog world:only the strong survive.Or only the strong rise to the top.What happens ..when the collective weak realise that they are stronger than the individually strong?It is a recipe for disaster.There is a reason,the strong are strong;their knowledge is important.But the weak are important too...why?Because they are often the strong of the future.If you eliminate them..you face the risk of having no future.Secondly,it is usually the effort and industry of the weak ,that make for a strong society.Here is a maxim ..you should rather consider...YOU ARE ONLY AS STRONG AS YOUR WEAKEST LINK.Take care of your weakest link.Happy Reading Austin4sports fans.Thanks for your support.
What are rules?We can classify ...regulations,restrictions,guidelines,controlling advice and self imposed principles... as rules.Why do we even...need rules?How do we respond to rules..as individuals and as a collective society?Who should make our rules?When is a rule fair..and when is a rule unfair?
There are...more questions about rules but,we shall...satisfy our curiosity for the meanwhile with the aforementioned .
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Why do we need rules?
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I think...we need rules to help us live productive lifestyles.The universe...we inhabit is a limited and restrictive one.It places...questionable and unquestionable rules upon its habitants.If this...was not the case everyone would be able to do anything and everything.It would create complete chaos and anarchy.As much as our childish imaginations...would crave such an environment;the odds are that,it would rapidly lead to self destruction.Whoever or whatever has created us ...has had the intelligence and grace to place restrictions on our behaviour as
long as possible for our own survival and benefit.It can be argued that we are ..
on a path to destruction anyway.However,the process of self destruction is slowed down by the restrictive forces we have to obey.One cannot put a price on the benefits of having rules...in our lives.There are guidelines ...to not kill each other;and there are
guidelines for seeking what we need to survive.If there were no rules..the strong
would eat up the weak,before they had a chance to become strong ,themselves.There would be no...diversity.The world would be a boring place,if not a completely desolate one.
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How do we respond to rules?
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And how should we...start to respond to rules?It is..an interesting thought to ponder.In my lifetime...I have seen a lot of responses,to this automated system of rules.Some obey with...neck breaking speed.At the sound of a command from anyone...they start to jump the hoops.Some learn to find,loop holes that would benefit their survival.And some make new rules ..that they feel comfortable obeying.They do this by...interpreting already existing rules...in a way that would suit their purposes.And some create their own completely new rules,while claiming to still obey the established rules.It does not matter,what reaction or response you have to rules,as long as it is satisfying your needs and wants,on the short and long term.And it is important to understand that there are rules that supersede other rules.In the process of obeying a superior rule...you are likely to disobey,bend,re-interpret...or find loop holes in an inferior rule.It is the nature of our universe and society.
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Why is the talk of rules important,anyway?
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Can we live our lives without question,and forget about analysing every abstract notion....that comes into our little brains?In the recent past ,the news and headlines have been dominated by child abusers,financial misdemeanour and power riggers.It is not a new thing.Nevertheless,there is an increasing debate about where we should draw the line and boundary of our rules.Is it society's responsibility to draw the format for our ethical behaviour ?Or should it be left to each individual to form their own morality and ethics.I am sure there are a lot of schools of thought.I think it is important to let the younger generation understand the importance rules play in working society,or we risk losing grip.
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Who should make rules?
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It is a no brainer,that everyone should make rules for themselves.You know best what goals are important to you,than anyone else.I saw a funny but thought provoking antidote on a social media platform that said..."whatever you do ,give it your 100 percent,unless it is donating blood".The point is that,it should be obvious where we should draw the line for ourselves.And if you are having problems discerning what to do ;it would be wise to have a reliable support system.I think...the big problem is more about rules for society in general.Who gets to make them...?And why...??Who killed God or Mother Nature and made them supreme rule maker???During the time of the prophets and holy men;their colleagues and fellow men questioned their authority.And it still happens now.We find ourselves asking,what gives anyone the right to tell us what we can and cannot do..?And my answer or suggestion is..that those who have shown a distinct upper hand in whatever it is...society wishes to achieve,should have the right.It could be economical,physical,moral,political or sexual.Who among us would like to take tips about fitness from a physically unfit person?Who would like to take financial tips from a broke individual?Who would like to take conscience tips from a morally bankrupt mind?Who would like to take sexual performance tips from a virgin?Or finally,who would like to take political tips from someone who cannot convince themselves of anything or make decisive arguments?We know the answer to these questions but it is important to note that,they may still hold valuable knowledge,it is just that they do not have the RIGHT to tell you anything,as they do not have either authority or expertise.We live in a world where everyone is an expert of everything.It should be that..experts make rules for society and...you get to decide rules for yourselves!
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When is a rule fair..And when is a rule unfair?
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Following from the argument and points made above;it is important to understand the nature of the rules,in our homes,offices and playgrounds.In law,sports and relationships,when is a rule fair?A rule is fair,when it takes into account the opportunities and potentials of everyone involved.It should offer ..equal and even
access to satisfying everyone's need.If you are observant,you will notice I did not use the word 'want"...The word 'want' denotes unrealistic and projected "needs".We often 'want' what we think we need in certain specific conditions and projected imaginary future.And no practical structure or plan can account for that,adequately.So a fair rule takes into account practical needs of everyone.And an unfair rule,caters for a privileged or selected few...Now I know of a few maxims or attitudes that foster unfair rules.And it is ..a very dangerous reason a lot of intelligent minds lend their efforts to perpetuating unfair rules.Maxims like ...It is a dog eat dog world:only the strong survive.Or only the strong rise to the top.What happens ..when the collective weak realise that they are stronger than the individually strong?It is a recipe for disaster.There is a reason,the strong are strong;their knowledge is important.But the weak are important too...why?Because they are often the strong of the future.If you eliminate them..you face the risk of having no future.Secondly,it is usually the effort and industry of the weak ,that make for a strong society.Here is a maxim ..you should rather consider...YOU ARE ONLY AS STRONG AS YOUR WEAKEST LINK.Take care of your weakest link.Happy Reading Austin4sports fans.Thanks for your support.
CINDERELLA OR GOLD DIGGER-a tale of disguised parity?
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CINDERELLA OR GOLD DIGGER-A tale of parity in disguise?
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You see!...Our society has not understood parity as a notion, well.Parity is from the idea ...of comparison.When you compare two things,and they match;you say there is parity.I used to date a girl😎,who said to me repeatedly...at the beginning of our dating experience that,she ...did not like comparisons-People and things were different from each other.When we broke up,it was partially because she was seeing someone else as well,and could not make up her mind(Or ..did make up her mind,on the other side? as I pushed...)
I wonder how she made that choice,if she was not subconsciously comparing every step of the way?Don't feel sorry for me😔,this was a long time ago...when I had nothing going for me except a handsome face!Now,this girl...as much as she consciously did not want to compare and contrast (as we used to say,in university!)she had compared and contrasted perfectly well;and had decided subconsciously or otherwise for the other guy.Now,why is this ...story important??I would say that,many people in society...do not know how to handle the notion of parity(equal in comparison).And,our choices have been to muddle through life without addressing it head on,or opt for one of the two extremes:"not comparing at all" or "comparing to a False result".
The title of this article has the intention of questioning your perception;the nature of your understanding of these two concepts-using Cinderella and Gold digger.🤔And it boils down to the idea of comparing and misjudging two things,of parity.
Now,Cinderella as most of you already know...is a character of a popular fairy tale(Mostly,amongst ...the female gender)She..was unfairly treated by her other two sisters but ends up marrying..a charming prince!(And,I am sure..a lot of minds have debated or queried the comparison I am about to make but,have not had the opportunity or self- will to make it public.)And just for ...a footnote in this discussion-the charming prince 👑 was...obviously rich.Now,on the other hand,a gold digger ...is someone who engages with a rich person,mainly(and note the word.."mainly")because of their riches.It is not to say,that the relationship lacks everything else;it simply means,the driving force to engage in the relationship ,is the provision of financial stability from one side to the other.We have been telling our daughters this fairytale story,for ages and decades.And the product has been,numerous girls seeking the Cinderella ending (or the gold digger experience,if they could not tell...the difference!)AND,I CANNOT BLAME ANYONE WHO CANNOT TELL THE DIFFERENCES,because they are pretty close or "tight".When you compare these two NOTIONS,properly...it is hard to see the differences.Yet,I know,on many occasions we have found ourselves calling someone having a 'Cinderella experience' a gold digger and vice versa.A relevant case in hand is...the news that Prince Harry is dating a young beautiful actress(of a series;SUITS-I have loved..watching.I even have a box 📦 set of one of the series)There is ...already media attention throwing a gold digger narrative on the story.And,I would be very surprised 😳 if she or Harry did not expect it.Unfortunately,it could possibly be because...she is of African origin(it seems?haha)Now,the problem here,is not that Harry is dating again!
The problem ...is our perception of the motive of the young American actress(I think,she is American)IS SHE A CINDERELLA OR A GOLD DIGGER?What do you think?IT DOES NOT MATTER,which one...!Why?because,it is a...question we cannot objectively answer.(Not even,the two of them can answer it conclusively....Trust me)We should understand the notion of parity,and ..CALL it "different",but nice.That is all.
Now,before we go off-topic completely,we as a society could never get rid of prejudices or bias(whether imagined or real...)if we do not grasp this idea of comparison and parity.Things can be parallel or in parity in life,or else the word ..would not exist in our dictionary.We can understand and compare two notions without coming to a fatal conclusion.Why?Because they are in ...parity.And,to be able to do this....we NEED to understand that,our world 🌎 is completely full of elements that are different from each other;with factors affecting it all the time,that make them very hard to compute accurately.THIS IS NOT TO SAY,WE SHOULD NOT COMPARE!Where is the fun,in that...?If we could not compare Manchester City AND Manchester United;where is the,fun in that...?If we could not compare HILLARY AND TRUMP,where is ...the fun in that?RUSSIA and AMERICA.....?We compare but,we realise that factors beyond our cognitive abilities are at play,and so...an accurate "result"cannot be objectively returned.(computer term)And,so under certain conditionality's..any result we chose to go with,is SIMPLY,a reflection of our personality and choice,and NOT a matter of FACT or superiority.I hope you are ...not confused with these terms?
Finally,I say a lot of things are different...we should enjoy and play with the differences and when ...work demands we make critical comparisons,we should realise the subjective nature of the result,and not kill or die because of it.AND THEREFORE CALL A spade ♠️ a spade ♠️and a Manchester United, a Manchester United(not a West Ham United,even though they are both...united's)without hurting or being prejudice against anyone.
Austin4sports.com Happy 😊 reading
FREEDOM
......Two most powerful motivations in our human existence are the desire for freedom and the desire for power or domination.Ironically,the ability to conquer these two drives...with self control is the most satisfying mind state of all.[more on.. that, later on]
Since the beginning of human existence[as we have been told by science and religion]Man has sought to dominate his environment.Man has sought freedom from his inadequacies.And,in case you have not noticed..both notions go hand in hand.The Sumarians,Greek,Romans,Persians,and the present day Russians,Americans and Chinese have sought to make this world a place that recognises and respects[...and sometimes worship] their needs and wants.However,the fact that we (all)breath...means we (all) require oxygen from air.And this means ...we have to share the quantity that exists for all of us.Thank goodness..there is enough at present.Unfortunately,not everything is universally avaliable(like air).For instance,there is limited land to inhabit.And [at present]there is limited food to consume for our healthy existence.These are the facts of reality...that make power and freedom necessary.
The recognition of the limitations of our environment has given thought to the formation of governments.The great minds and thinkers of all generations recognised the fact that anarchy would reign[and eventually self destruction],if we did not employ some sort of system to share the limited resources.And like everything else...progress had to be made from infancy to adulthood with system of governments.Sometimes this had to be done through the sheer force of will...and sometimes,it was a consenting collaboration.[which made sense to everyone]Governments have over the years been formed by the privileged few,[aristocracy] and later on by the common majority [democracy]The problem with the system we have now,is that of ....greed.
There is a line ...to be drawn here.We as humans do not have a decent switch off mechanism for our desires.Once our drive kicks in...to want and achieve something,it takes an almighty force to stop us.We naturally think...humans can stop,when we are satisfied .However,practically...this almost never happens.We quit or have breaks for a while...and continue [at a latter date]when the hunger resumes.This is a basic nature of human beings.It is called greed.Someone clever put it this way:HUMAN NEEDS ARE INSATIABLE.We start off...trying to save the world,and end up colonising it.We start off.trying to help someone get their lives back on track,and we end up running it for them.It is greed.It is the reason people would always be crying out for FREEDOM.The spoils of Power..is another reason the cries of FREEDOM,would always be on the lips of many of us.Kings and Queens conquered worlds around them with the intention to share and teach their "superior" civilisations.And before long...the spoils and pleasure of power made them to want more.The kings and Queens demanded more and gave less and lesser...in return to their subjects.The excesses of power usually led to the attitude that,you can do whatever you like with your subjects.Hence the cry for Freedom.....
There are three types of freedom that I have identified ;the freedom to chose,the freedom to desire,and the freedom to achieve.
THE FREEDOM TO CHOSE
....it is dehumanising for any human to lack the option of choice.It is twice criminal when such choices are taken away by a fellow human being.The satisfaction of freedom is not ..the need to consume and enjoy everything but,the avaliablility of the choice ,if you wanted to...Many people would not chose to own a yacht or an island ...if the choice was freely avaliable.Many people would ...chose not to be billionaires if they got exactly what they wanted out of life.[as hard as it may seem to some...it is the TRUTH]
THE FREEDOM TO DESIRE.
sometimes this can be a bit confusing .Many of us are brought up...by parents,who told us what to do [....and what not to do]They went further to tell us...what we should desire[..and what we should not desire].Now,I do not know about you...but,I do not think I would be living my life if I was doing ...what other people wanted.If my achievements...were someone else's dreams and desires,then I WOULD HAVE NOT LIVED...Someone else would have lived twice[one for themselves,and one through you]And I say...this is a bit confusing for some because,we do not always know what is best for us.And we do not always have ...the best intelligence to survive.However,the bottom line....is,your life has to be YOUR LIFE.You make the choice to desire whatever you like..It could take you to your demise,yes....but,freedom is about having the choice to live or die,unfortunately.
THE FREEDOM TO ACHIEVE...
....this is where systems of people and government,are involved.Whether it is in the family,school,playground or workplace.Once you have exercised your freedom to chose and your freedom to desire,you are left with ...the freedom to achieve feats.And a society is considered good or appropriate when it allows it's members to achieve its desires and goals.Hence the popularity of democracy.However,my personal concern is ...the freedom from other peoples greed.[passing the boundary of your own satisfaction]In the process of trying to achieve their goals...most people do not allow others achieve their goals.Some clever minded person..put it this way:LIVE AND LET LIVE.In the animal kingdom[which we are part of]...systems of relationships like parasitic ,predatory and symbiotic living ,exist.As much as the first two cannot be eradicated because of our basic human nature....the only way for FREEDOM,lies with the third system of relationships.It is the one ...I would be advocating.As I am exercising my freedom to chose,to desire and to achieve.HAPPY READING.
......Two most powerful motivations in our human existence are the desire for freedom and the desire for power or domination.Ironically,the ability to conquer these two drives...with self control is the most satisfying mind state of all.[more on.. that, later on]
Since the beginning of human existence[as we have been told by science and religion]Man has sought to dominate his environment.Man has sought freedom from his inadequacies.And,in case you have not noticed..both notions go hand in hand.The Sumarians,Greek,Romans,Persians,and the present day Russians,Americans and Chinese have sought to make this world a place that recognises and respects[...and sometimes worship] their needs and wants.However,the fact that we (all)breath...means we (all) require oxygen from air.And this means ...we have to share the quantity that exists for all of us.Thank goodness..there is enough at present.Unfortunately,not everything is universally avaliable(like air).For instance,there is limited land to inhabit.And [at present]there is limited food to consume for our healthy existence.These are the facts of reality...that make power and freedom necessary.
The recognition of the limitations of our environment has given thought to the formation of governments.The great minds and thinkers of all generations recognised the fact that anarchy would reign[and eventually self destruction],if we did not employ some sort of system to share the limited resources.And like everything else...progress had to be made from infancy to adulthood with system of governments.Sometimes this had to be done through the sheer force of will...and sometimes,it was a consenting collaboration.[which made sense to everyone]Governments have over the years been formed by the privileged few,[aristocracy] and later on by the common majority [democracy]The problem with the system we have now,is that of ....greed.
There is a line ...to be drawn here.We as humans do not have a decent switch off mechanism for our desires.Once our drive kicks in...to want and achieve something,it takes an almighty force to stop us.We naturally think...humans can stop,when we are satisfied .However,practically...this almost never happens.We quit or have breaks for a while...and continue [at a latter date]when the hunger resumes.This is a basic nature of human beings.It is called greed.Someone clever put it this way:HUMAN NEEDS ARE INSATIABLE.We start off...trying to save the world,and end up colonising it.We start off.trying to help someone get their lives back on track,and we end up running it for them.It is greed.It is the reason people would always be crying out for FREEDOM.The spoils of Power..is another reason the cries of FREEDOM,would always be on the lips of many of us.Kings and Queens conquered worlds around them with the intention to share and teach their "superior" civilisations.And before long...the spoils and pleasure of power made them to want more.The kings and Queens demanded more and gave less and lesser...in return to their subjects.The excesses of power usually led to the attitude that,you can do whatever you like with your subjects.Hence the cry for Freedom.....
There are three types of freedom that I have identified ;the freedom to chose,the freedom to desire,and the freedom to achieve.
THE FREEDOM TO CHOSE
....it is dehumanising for any human to lack the option of choice.It is twice criminal when such choices are taken away by a fellow human being.The satisfaction of freedom is not ..the need to consume and enjoy everything but,the avaliablility of the choice ,if you wanted to...Many people would not chose to own a yacht or an island ...if the choice was freely avaliable.Many people would ...chose not to be billionaires if they got exactly what they wanted out of life.[as hard as it may seem to some...it is the TRUTH]
THE FREEDOM TO DESIRE.
sometimes this can be a bit confusing .Many of us are brought up...by parents,who told us what to do [....and what not to do]They went further to tell us...what we should desire[..and what we should not desire].Now,I do not know about you...but,I do not think I would be living my life if I was doing ...what other people wanted.If my achievements...were someone else's dreams and desires,then I WOULD HAVE NOT LIVED...Someone else would have lived twice[one for themselves,and one through you]And I say...this is a bit confusing for some because,we do not always know what is best for us.And we do not always have ...the best intelligence to survive.However,the bottom line....is,your life has to be YOUR LIFE.You make the choice to desire whatever you like..It could take you to your demise,yes....but,freedom is about having the choice to live or die,unfortunately.
THE FREEDOM TO ACHIEVE...
....this is where systems of people and government,are involved.Whether it is in the family,school,playground or workplace.Once you have exercised your freedom to chose and your freedom to desire,you are left with ...the freedom to achieve feats.And a society is considered good or appropriate when it allows it's members to achieve its desires and goals.Hence the popularity of democracy.However,my personal concern is ...the freedom from other peoples greed.[passing the boundary of your own satisfaction]In the process of trying to achieve their goals...most people do not allow others achieve their goals.Some clever minded person..put it this way:LIVE AND LET LIVE.In the animal kingdom[which we are part of]...systems of relationships like parasitic ,predatory and symbiotic living ,exist.As much as the first two cannot be eradicated because of our basic human nature....the only way for FREEDOM,lies with the third system of relationships.It is the one ...I would be advocating.As I am exercising my freedom to chose,to desire and to achieve.HAPPY READING.