Feelings affect our thoughts and actions
Emotions are felt and expressed;Expression is letting others see it,while feeling is being aware of it (yourself).
Loneliness is an emotion dependent personalities refuse to feel but, mistakenly express.(When you feel lonely but encourage the feeling:you start to feel alone but,the solitude of feeling alone can be used to grow mentally strong.
Anger is an emotion..artificially tough(insecure) people like to feel and express.
Jealousy is an emotion...failures and the weak, like to feel but not express.
Greed is an emotion,people without direction and faith...love to feel and express.
Apathy ...is an emotion those who are unloved love to feel and express.
Pity is an emotion those who are uncaring and unhelpful like to feel and express.
Hunger is an emotion those who are alive,like to feel and express.
Pain is an emotion that scared and shy personalities hate to feel but like ...to express.
Happiness is an emotion innocent and successful love to feel and express.
Pride is an emotion the hopeless like to feel and express.
Fear is an emotion the restless like ...to feel and express.
Hope is an emotion,those who have favour like to feel and express.
Kindness is an emotion the powerful like to sometimes feel and sometimes ...express.
Power is an emotion,those that are damned or in danger like to feel and express.
Courage is an emotion risk taking personalities like to feel and express....
Love is an emotion the created love to feel and express..
Peace is an emotion the hardworking love to feel and express.
Freedom or liberty is an emotion the enslaved or captive like to feel and hope ...to express.
HOW TOUGH ARE YOU...?
I am going...to tackle a very sensitive and tough topic today.And permit me ..to enter your inner sanctuaries.(That place,that nobody ...gets into because,it belongs to you and,only you)You see,whether you believe God exists or not,you will have to accept that you exist.[At some point,of your self examination]This does not have to be a morbid or serious reflection.What I want us ..to examine today,is what drives..most of us mentally[our attitude]Sometimes it is ...the attitude of our friends,family members or admired colleagues that affect our own attitude.Sometimes,it is the failures of certain earlier attitudes of yours,that makes ...some of us to chose the opposite attitude to motivate our eventual and future actions.
We are going to look at a few concepts:
I believe that each one of us...has a personality and a character.Forgive me again,for ignoring the conventional definitions of these terms.Try...and suspend your intellects
for a few minutes,in this journey.View this experience...as one would do when you are window shopping.You are not ...there to buy.You are just looking.And,if something catches your interest,you would have to go home,and come back with the money;and then buy whatever it is you have decided to purchase.Now,do the same thing here:
READ,LISTEN,UNDERSTAND...and contemplate.Only then,should you decide to accept.Here we go...
I have always ...been curious about the concept of toughness.It is has been clear...to
me from day one,that everyone is vulnerable at some point,at something.So when I
see someone portraying themselves as invincible.I know..they are either being stupid,dumb or ignorant.One ...other thing it could be,is trying to be manipulative.And
please do ...not mistake the idea of courage with toughness.Courage is an ..acknowledgement of vulnerability and fear ...which does not hinder you from taking the 'right ' actions.And,I am not saying..you should not be tough.[This may sound like a contradiction but,it is not]When I say...be tough;I mean you should learn to survive difficulties.[self inflicted or otherwise]A toughness...that says,you should
be evil,bad,nasty,rude or mean....is the wrong "conceptionalization" of toughness.
And,I find..a lot of people lack the skills to navigate awkward or difficult situations and problems,so they resort to these weaker emotional expressions.Now,for a second..let
me go back to that statement...that everyone of us has a personality and a character.This is how I see these two fundamental notions:Personality is a self marker..but,is an amalgamation of several experiences of life.[It is an essence added unto oneself,due to their learning from the experiences of life]However,character
is a core holding or centre that ...influences how you respond to these experiences.It holds your personality [or personalities for some]together.So simply put...two different characters could experience the same thing but,come out with different personalities because of it.I mention ...character and personalities because,I think,they determine ..why some "conceptionalization"toughness the wrong way or the right way.
What is the importance or relevance of this knowledge.Well,thinking of toughness
the wrong way,leads us to ...acting mean.rude,evil,nasty and naughty.
What is meanness?Meanness is ...unkindness,spitefulness and unfairness.Wow!Already,I can guarantee you that,many reading this article would recognise those
concepts or words.Of course,we rationalise these emotions and actions with excuses
that ..the recipients deserve such treatment.Now,I do not ...want to sound like I am preaching because,I am talking to myself[as well]as I write.So,those who know me ,
should call me out,when they see me 'breach' anything I say here.I will appreciate it,honestly.Let me say,here ...that kindness does not mean softness.I am not soft.I know many colleagues mistake my fairness and kindness for softness.Let me correct your ignorance once and for all...Softness entails,that you are sensitive to everything that hurts others(or causes discomfort)
Kindness entails that you are,only sensitive to things you think are the right things to preserve or encourage,in any situation.For,example...your daughter could want sweets before a meal.And,you know,it is not healthy.Being soft..is succumbing to her tears,and giving her that sweet.Being kind...is giving her a beautiful intimate hug,and tell her she ..would have it later[not before her meal]And,if she wants ..to cry her eyes out,then..it is her choice to wash her eyes of a lot of dirt.You watch her cry,and eventually stop,then eat...her meal.And,then you comfort her again.That is ..kindness.
MEAN IS DOING IN FRONT OF EVERYONE..WITH THE INTENTION TO HURT
The problem...I have with some people,I know...is that they believe, to survive
they need to be tough.And,to be tough..means to be mean to others.Now,you can hopefully know...better.And,when one is judging what to be sensitive to,and
what not ..to be sensitive to,we can all be mistaken or wrong.Nevertheless,if your intentions are to heal rather than hurt,then you are not being mean.There is a very fine line.Some know ...they are hurting others,but hide behind the idea that,"it would be good for them"Life is tough,it would make them tougher.The telling factor that ...makes you know that they are not been kind or healing,is that they do not care,whether you learn or become better,they are only interested ...in "teaching you a lesson".This is a hurting action,and not a healing one.
The term bad..is now, a twisted word.It is recognised as the opposite;being good or excellent.Here,I am referring to 'bad'as the original and dictionary definition that states it as something of poor quality,inferior or defective.As we are ..talking about behaviour here;it refers to someone who is always acting badly with bad intentions.
This refers ...to something that looks bad,even if it is unintentional.
This refers to..initiating an opposition to culture or tradition.Now,I have a subtext to this notion.Sometimes,people can be rude in subtle ways;and the only way ...to
respond back is,to be rude also.And everyone understands..when juvenile rebellion
leads to rudeness.It is part of ...the growing up process.Do not completely deny them this recourse.And,I must add here...[because,I may not get another opportunity]that some manipulative personalities use the issue or concept of rudeness as a whip or tool.As I said,it is not conforming to traditions or culture.Some
culture are adverse to your nature.And some traditions..are not good traditions.So
any act in defiance is rude,on the face of it but,is necessary.Again,if your rudeness
is to hurt instead of healing then,it is not acceptable [in my book]
This refers ...to when the source of your badness is questionable,unknown and not understood.And,it is probably incurable.
This refers to a playful badness.A refusal to obey instructions,and opposition to a command in a subtle,playful or hidden way.Of course,it could pass respectable or acceptable boundaries but,largely or generally is okay.And sometimes,necessary for for fun.[mostly adult only]
Finally,when someone askes ...how tough are you?Or demands ...you should be tougher.I hope you would now know,what to take from it,and respond appropriately.
Being tough...the wrong way,requires an ability and the luck,of having more than one life to spare.It takes ...a lot of ignorance and defiance of reality to be bullishly tough.Most times,you will run out of lives...Knowing what is being displayed before..your presence is very important.Is the person being naughty,mean,rude,simply bad or evil...and hiding behind the mask of toughness?It is smart ...to respond properly,and let it not change your personality.
Now that is ..smart,and being tough the right way.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY...MUM,AUNTY,SISTER...AND COUSINS.And ...to every mother.
WHY DO WE DATE..PEOPLE WHO ARE HAPPIER?
There is ...only one answer to this question.Anyone?It is ..because we want to be HAPPy too!
So this article is not going to be...a list of reasons people want to date a certain kind of person.It is going to be about tackling UNHAPPINESS.(and increasing HAPPINESS)
Somewhere...I saw a statement saying:MONEY CANNOT BUY YOU HAPPINESS,BUT IT CAN BUY YOU A PENGUIN;HAVE YOU EVER SEEN AN UNHAPPY OWNER OF A PENGUIN?[or something similar...]Well,my reply is...the PENGUIN did NOT bring about the happiness;only someone already HAPPY,would go and buy a penguin.haha.It is true.Trust me...and trust me well,when I say...HAPPINESS IS LIKE BLOOD IN OUR SYSTEM;you cannot buy it at the counter or superstore...to start up a supply for your system.You HAVE ..to have it originally at birth.You can top up occasionally but,no-one suddenly becomes..happy like a switch,when they
were born or conditioned into unhappiness.
There are A Few concepts or notions that are mistaken for happiness.One of them is satisfaction.Now,forgive me...if the Oxford dictionary meaning of these words conflict with what I am saying:I am applying the meanings ...as society uses them,in a practical sense.And not as...an all covering theoretical definition.Satisfaction is a sense ....of accomplishment.And it is usually temporary.It is NOT ...the same as happiness.Excitement is ANOTHER,notion mistaken for happiness.It is not the same thing,as it is a sudden burst of positive attitude and energy towards something.Usually,it is based around ...a half truth or a fantasy.Happiness is AUTHENTIC,STRONG and INDEPENDENT.Another,word associated with happiness is CONFIDENCE.Confidence is more of a...mental state than an emotional one.Happiness is very emotional.
WHAT CAN ENHANCE..happiness?
For those ... born in unhappiness;the road is not blocked.And those with low
levels of happiness..it could be helped if you pick upon some of these points below:
REST,BALANCE AND VARIETY
As much as ...I have differentiated some notions from happiness,confidence,excitement and satisfaction are still elements found in happiness.A happy person is usually confident,often excited and satisfied or content.One of the things important to keeping your level
of happiness ...is having a lot of rest,balance and variety in your life.
The recommended amount of sleep...for a healthy functioning body is apparently 6hrs a day.I try to get...8 hrs everyday .If you are not getting enough rest and sleep per day,
you are jeopardising your happiness levels.I must add that..having lots of rest can
compensate for a drop in sleep(hours)for only ...a short period.An inability to sleep...usually comes from a haphazard bedtime regulation.You can also upset..your relaxing hormone mechanism with diet,and imbalanced exercising routines.It is a whole different complex problem,we would deal with sometime.The bottom line is...get enough rest,and sleep:YOU CANNOT CHEAT NATURE.In the case of balance;every individual with a personality and character...has opinions and bias towards most things.For example,we have our favourite food,clothing style,sports,music and even friends.When you examine..
your choices,you will usually find a pattern.[maybe..most of your friends are soft spoken or most of your food is sugar based ]It is an inclination or choice.[it could be automatic or deliberate]Nevertheless..we naturally lean towards the extremes of things.For women...putting on make up,could be a case of layers upon layers,before they are satisfied.I prefer...women who put as little as possible,because the further
away from your natural self..the more of a "painting"you become.And I value..the skill of getting the most ...out of as little as possible.The more you apply,the more a gamble and a risk ..you are taking.And the more apparent it is that ...you either don't know your face well or possess poor make up skills.[even when someone else is doing it for you]I WENT OFF TOPIC..a little THERE.LET ME GET BACK...
Balancing your choices..means taking a little bit of the other side.There is something...to learn from everything.[unless,it is life threatening]The idea of variety...follows after the balance idea.If balance means ..finding the middle ground,then VARIETY means sampling a lot of things.Remember variety is the spice of life.Rest can be boring...but necessary after work.And Balance is the key to sanity and continuity.
MAINTAINING A POSITIVE ENERGY PILOT LIGHT(on the on/off switch)
Most of us have used...those em' gas heaters that need..the pilot light constantly switched on.If your pilot light goes out,because you ran out of gas[or your bill,was not paid]then you have to restart it with...a lot of effort.Happiness is like that...You cannot
afford to run out of positive energy completely.
TRUTH /HAPPINESS RELATIONSHIP
There is a correlation between how ...one views TRUTH,and the levels of HAPPINESS,
he/she experiences.There are three ways ...we normally look at truth.
1.Truth with a little bias ...in our favour.
2.Truth to flatter someone else,and gain us favour.
3.Balanced truth that vilifies you as well as exults you.
Unfortunately,the concept of truth is a relative one.The mechanism that operates..it's
existence in the universe is fluid.What do I mean ?Unless,you have a reference that is
absolute in nature,you cannot confirm without doubt something as ...the TRUTH.You may not agree,but it is true.In our generation,we have embraced more than ever the idea of democracy.[And as much as we can all agree...that it has its merits]Democracy does not have any authority over the TRUTH:everyone except one person ...could be wrong.At one point in time,majority of the human race believed the earth was flat.THEY WERE WRONG ,and one man knew it.It is now known to be a sphere.WHAT HAS THIS GOT ...TO DO WITH,happiness?Well,it is easy to realise early in life that ...an experience can be interpreted in many different ways.Your interpretation is what matters.Sometimes the concept of truth can become confusing and debatable.What could be considered the truth?The summary of ..all the opinions and views?The majority of similar opinions?Or just individual opinions as recognised by the individual themselves ?Your happiness depends upon how ...you view TRUTH.Do you perceive events and experiences ...only how it relates to you positively or negatively [rather than objectively?When you flatter ...someone else,and they accept it as honest;does it become "the truth"between the two of you?There are lots of questions and few answers here.However,my approach is...to balance my perception.I chose...to examine things first from my point of view,and then from the other person's point of view.I try to sit...as a third person observing...as new evidence become relevant:then I decide what I would view as the truth.If this is ..too complex or tedious to comphrend or practice then just understand that...NO-ONE KNOWS EVERYTHING and NO-ONE IS COMPLETELY RIGHT,at any given time.[No-one,including you]Now note that,with faith and religion truth loses its relative nature,and becomes ABSOLUTE.There is now a reference...And you can say,this is the TRUTH .And this is what I believe.It makes sense to me...
MIND SET VS MATERIAL GAIN VS EMOTIONAL STATE VS STATUS GAIN
I am happy..comes from one of these four above.When asked...whether you
are happy or unhappy,most examine those four things above.Have I gained
or increased in my social or political standing recently?hmm?I was aiming to be
accepted or recognised as such and such.Have I achieved that goal?hmm.
If their self reflection is positive,then they conclude ....that they must be happy.
How do I feel today?what state are my hormones today?Has anyone offended
me today?hmm?I need a house...can I get one?Those shoes ...are marvellous,I
must get one,or I would not be ....HAPPY???I am poor,so I cannot be happy;everybody
needs money.So why do you expect me to be happy?hmm.Happiness is
a mindset.IF YOU CHOSE TO BELIEVE,you are a happy person or can be a happy
person,then you will naturally take steps towards happiness.As long as,you do not
make one of the other three...your source of excitement,you would be okay.[they are fickle produces ...of good feelings]Having a Independent positive mindset,is more durable.[THIS DOES NOT MEAN..you cannot be upset]
CHARITY GIVING AND SACRIFICES
It is no secret that,doing things for others gives us good feelings.It is one of the
easiest ways to maintain a high level of happiness.Doing the "right"thing does not
always accomplish the right results.However,you can hold your hand on your heart
and know...your motives were pure.And,that ....more times than not,it achieves happiness.[maybe not satisfaction]
ROMANCE AND HAPPINESS
Romance and relationships play a huge part ...in happiness levels.The heart wants
what it wants...and sometimes it is hard to bare.Nevertheless,the key ...to happiness
in romance and relationships is purity and trust.And,I say purity[as well as the well known trust]because...it is a two way street.If you are being impure and dishonest but
you trust your partner,it is not going to work.PERIOD.And it is unfortunate that...most
relationships base their success upon ....playing mind games.When you have two equally crafty and clever minds....the mind game playing can be sustained for a long period.However,if there is an imbalance...in the ability to play these games,then ...one
or both would suffer.I would advice couples ...to play against others [as a team]In my experience,couples and families that ...stay together,are those that don't play against
each other [at all...zero]They work,and learn from each other ...to play against "outsiders".Now ...that is a true team,and a good plan for happiness.
GAMES AND SPORTS,and sportsmanship
The Brits are known for their mind games.Australians are known for their outdoors activities and games nature.The Germans ...are known for their love of board games.
The Chinese and Japanese are known ...for their crave for physical combat artistry.
The Americans...are known for their video games addictive nature.Holland are known
for their sex games prowess .I am not claiming ...these are authentic and provable statements.It is just my perception.The point...I need to make here,is ...which of these
nations are known to be the happiest?And which is known for its poor happiness index.
Some of those games are really HAPPINESS compatible,and one or two are not...Figure out which is which,for yourselves.
Games,give us an outlet...to expel our aggressive demons.If as human beings..we did
not create these pseudo fights..through evolution,we would have destroyed ourselves by now.WE WOULD BECOME EXTINCT as a specie.Finding an outlet,for your stress,gives you a better chance at being happy.It does not matter what it is...HAPPY READING AND SHARING...AND CONTINUE BEING HAPPY.YOURS truly Austin4sports.com
WHY DO WE DATE ...PEOPLE MORE POPULAR THAN US?
Most of us date...to end up eventually,in relationships.Of Course,there are different
types and durations for relationships.It could be a few minutes FLIRTING ,a one day fling,a few months affair or a long-time (years) marriage .Some..would prefer to date
for the sake of dating;to feel some adventure..and fill in,some leisure time.In both cases,we do choose to date people who are more popular than us.Why?
WHY DO WE NEED ...POPULARITY?
It is very easy...to get attracted to popularity.How many of us...can remember the
kids in the playground who got all the attention?The teachers paid more attention to them.They got crowds ..waiting to play with them.Even at that age...we did not require
our dads and mums,to explain to us that,it was desirable.Now,I need to pause here,to
let you know that ...I was one of those kids.For some reason,at various places,and to varying degrees...I was popular.I am very fortunate to have ...alongside "it"an analytical mind.So I am not carried away ...by the popularity;whether it is the positive fame or negative notoriety.And so,I would be a prime candidate to talk about it without any gloating or arrogance.
1- We need and seek attention in varying degrees.[And what I am doing now,is part of it]We do this because,we are alive ...and want to remain alive.
2-Being popular...seems a more fun way to live.All the entertainers of this world were attracted to their profession because of this fact.
3-Unfortunately,a lot of people would do despicable things to attract popularity.
A whole lot of our reality shows ...are based on this principle.
4-It is important to note that,some personalities are quite the opposite.They would
reject any publicity or limelight (like a bat behaves towards daylight)And...I am not
talking of the shrinking and shy ones.These are socially capable and gifted ones.Some
abhor popularity...on religious basis or the bad reputation that the notion carries these days.
5-Popularity comes naturally to some people.They do not have to work for it.It is like..the heavens opened,once they were born and the light has been following them ever since...On the other hand,some work [to various degrees again]to acquire popularity;and succeed.And some don't succeed.Which sometimes lead to tragic ends.
WE WANT WHAT OTHERS HAVE GOT...
Whether it is ...of use to us or not.Whether it is a bad or good thing,we want
what others have got...And so attention always lies somewhere.If it is ...on someone else,there is no good reason it should not be on us as well.[some believe]
IT IS THE ONLY WAY,TO FEEL YOU BELONG SOMEWHERE
There are very few people among us...who do not fit in anywhere,and don't care.
A bid ...to belong "somewhere"is a natural instinct.And only a few ...have mastered
the power to resist that feeling sometimes.Popularity makes you feel,you matter in a group.If the spotlight is never on you...it makes one feel invisible.And no-one really wants that..?
THERE IS POWER INVOLVED ...
A lust for power can be the reason we seek and crave popularity.As I mentioned
earlier,with the kids.The benefit of having ...many children want to play with you,is
that a couple would be ready to offer gifts and favours...to gain or maintain that privilege.THAT IS ...what some people call ....power.It is not power to change the world
but it can pay for lunch after lunch.And it does not hurt...with the opposite sex relations.
TO HIDE OUR FLAWS
It is funny how...the spotlight can expose your flaws and weaknesses,and yet
popularity makes them disappear.[haha]It does not matter,that David beckham's
Voice is not top notch masculine:he is popular because of other things.How many ..of you would think of his voice first,when his name is mentioned [very pathetic few]
It is not only ...against others that we hide these flaws.We try to forget and hide them from ourselves too.If we are popular to ...enough people,then [we tell ourselves]that
our flaws do not matter,and ignore them.
POPULARITY IMPRESSES STRANGERS AND FRIENDS
I hope ...my sister is not reading this..article.[Anyway,none of them would be sure of who I am talking about]Well...my sister used to come back from school,and sometimes during breaks with,"a legion of friends".And I used to think,"what the FUCK"?[excuse my language]What are they following her for...?Whatever vibe or tricks...she was pulling,I was impressed.AND I SUPPOSE..some people frequently want to achieve that effect,so they seek popularity.I feel burdened by people ...following me around.[i don't know]Maybe I am ...an alien.
Okay,the article ...is about why we date people more popular than us.Yes?Well,you
can figure..out many permutations from the above.It could be ...you want to belong to a certain crowd for a while or permanently,so you date someone who is popular with that crowd.It could be ...you are someone who does not want the limelight,so you date someone who would take that spotlight off you.Naturally,one can be a crowd puller but,it does not necessarily mean...they like what comes along with it.They can date someone who is more popular than themselves,to pull away some of the attention.
And finally,some date more popular people to ...share or learn how to pull followers to themselves.And I could give ...you a prime celebrity example:Kate and Pete...He was
not a "people puller" before he met Kate.[i could be wrong]However,he has subsequently learnt how to attract an entourage.Good or bad?
I am not going ...to be moral,about popularity here,like I do sometimes in my article.You are informed...enough to know what you should or should not do.Good luck,and....I hope you look forward to my next article.It could be ...the big one about HAPPINESS..Haha
The obvious reasons for dating ...someone with more financial clout than you :
PROTECTION From hunger
In this era of recessions and Financial chaos ...one cannot over-estimate the implications of having a sound financial security.In the past,the role of financial protection fell on men.Now,women as well as men ...have the burden of taking care of financial issues.There are many unseen ...circumstances that could lead to one having insufficient financial protection.And so,any credible chance to assure ...your financial future through your choice of a partner,should be entertained.The problem of starvation...(a struggle with food provision)can be solved by financial stability.Some
of us cannot stand the worries of food scarcity.And having ruled out the probability of any other source of financial remedy;dating could be the answer.
PROTECTION from class or status discrimination
I am ...one of those who believe,that class or status is self-perceived.It can also be
arbitrarily apportioned by others.And so,one can envisage themselves in one class contrary to their reality.If it is possible ..to upgrade their status by the choice of your partner,some will do it.There are privileges associated with having a higher status than most...It protects you from certain kinds of discrimination.And some cannot bear ...what others think about them.So what can they do...to "permanently " guard against discrimination?Some have decided to date and mix ...with higher status to gain higher class.What else can I say..?
PROTECTION from low self esteem issues
....There is a feeling that ...poverty is always a result of laziness.And wealth is the reward of the brave.As a consequence...when some find themselves in a less comfortable financial situation than expected,they feel inadequate.Low self esteem resulting from financial inadequacies demands remedy with financial stability.And in order to prevent themselves from these feelings,they attempt to date higher earners.Unfortunately,self esteem issues may have their roots deeper than financial short-comings.And a bid ...to conquer their fears by dating someone with a higher financial muscle only exacerbates the problem.
PROTECTION from physical discomforts.
Luxury in daily life...is one of the top motivations to strive for financial stability.We do no want to walk,when we can drive [or be driven].We do not want ...to eat two "round"meals,when we can eat three square meals with snacks in between.We do not want to go ...to public schools when we can afford private ones.We do not want to work 7 days a week...when we can work for any number ..we chose,and "chillax"for the remaining.[or go on oversee traveling ]We do not want to be ...at the back rows of concerts and shows,when we can be ...at the premium or VIP sections of events.You can avoid ...a lot of present day physical discomfort by dating [and essentially making it probable that ...they could become a partner]someone who has more financial earning power.I personally...do not find any luxury,"luxurious enough".One can never be satisfied with an level of luxury.So I take ...the philosophical view of enjoying whatever condition I find myself,and work hard ...to prevent it from going backwards.IF IT GOES ...FORWARD,I THANK MY STARS,and GOD[and my many well-wishers]Simple.
The not-so-obvious reasons for dating...someone with more financial clout than you
A SENSE of adventure
We do not know...what life can hand us,most of the time.Life is like a box...of something [with different assortments]When you dip your hand in...to pick one;anything could come out of that action.It is ...this understanding that leads us to develop a strong sense of adventure.There is a small urge[in some cases,a big one]to put your valuables at risk to see what is at the turn of the next corner.And so...many chose to date someone out of their financial 'class'[usually,higher]to see what happens;It could be fun,they say to themselves.And some times...it turns out exciting and satisfying.You find..old cares and responsibilities taken off your hands.And other times[depending upon your personality and philosophy]It could lead to loss of self identity and self -dignity.
A SENSE of a mundane lifestyle
This is akin...to the last reason[but differs a bit].It has to do with ...realisation that your life is now boring[has being the same over a long period].And you wish to change it a bit.One can choose to date a different kind of person[from the kind they normally date]And dating someone with considerable more financial status ...is one option.As I said earlier it differs from the last reason.And this is because,it is not a sense of adventure[a desire for constant change]but,a dissatisfaction with a stale status quo.[a desire for a change after a long,long while].
A SENSE of a spiritual entitlement.
Well,this ...can be hard to detect or diagnose.Some people have an almost spiritually based belief that they should be financially wealthy.It resides somewhere ...in their subconscious that ...they should never accept a financially mundane lifestyle.[IT IS NOT MEANT FOR THEM].And the consequence of this belief system is ...an attempt at anything to become financially affluent.I believe,such individuals...are capable of a lot of devious actions,to get rich.And so,if an opportunity...comes along,in the dating front[that would provide them with what they want]...they would grab it with "three hands".
A SENSE of revenge
...Unfortunately,most of us are prone to negative motivation.When someone ...says you can never be something[or achieve a feat];there is a force,within most of us to prove them wrong.It is a major ...reason some people have their life course altered for good or bad.When someone says...you will never amount to anything good;it pinches your self pride.Unfortunately,it leads some to do things...they would never have dreamt they would attempt.When your talents and hard work ..seem to be insufficient.And the taunting words and voice of your enemies...is ringing in your mind.What do you do?You go ...on a hunting spree for the highest bidder.You specifically target...anyone who is richer than you,and reject anyone who is,on the opposite of that spectrum.This is ...what I say to minds that think REVENGE is a good idea.You probably think,you are defending your way of thinking [and consequently,your life]but,you are actually doing the opposite.Imagine [if you can]...a multitude of hands pinching your body.If you response to all of them...would you go anywhere?No.You have to make a choice...as to what you want to do,irrespective of the distracting stimuli.If you find...you cannot ignore something;PRAY.[that is what I do]And let God and nature...take their course.REVENGE is never an OPTION for me.I try to defend myself but,retribution is for God or KARMA.
A SENSE of happiness
On a better note...we can decide to date someone with a better financial clout than you because,you are already happy with everything else.Yes,you ...could still be seen as a gold-digger.However,why should you deny yourself ...a gift?If someone with more income offers a date with you?Why should you reject it... solely on the basis of what others would think?The universe ...sees you as happy,and consequently...you are attracting more happiness.You would be stupid to reject it.You can feel you are happy [at the moment]and imagine dating...someone richer, could make you even happier?Please, this is ..different from,someone who is unhappy,and thinks dating a richer person would turn them into a happy individual.IT DOES NOT WORK.
A SENSE of self-value.
...Finally,this reason stems from...an evaluation of oneself.A profile description of your behaviour,style and personality .And concluding that it demands..a partner with more earning power.I would not go ...into detail with this one[...because it could be termed sexist]Actually,it is not...because,it could refer to both sexes.However,at the moment ...it is mostly females that have this reason as a valid one.
Whatever reason...that you find akin to your way of thinking,just remember the
cautions and warnings about them..Austin4sports
THE NEXT ARTICLE ...I WOULD BE TACKLING would be about dating ...someone happier than you. Peace out..Austin4sports at your service
WHY SOME OF US LIKE TO DATE "DOWN"?
DATING OR HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE MORE INTELLIGENT THAN YOU?(Pros and Cons )
This is part of a series...we would be tackling,over the next few articles.It would include:
A.Dating or in a r/ship with someone financially better off,than you?
B.Dating or in a r/ship with someone more popular than you?
C.Dating or in a r/ship with someone more physically attractive than you?
D.Dating or in a r/ship with someone happier than you?
Someone may ask...how can you tell,whether someone is happier than you(overall)?You can find out when the article comes out soon.
Today,we are going to deal with the first question.We would see where it takes or leaves us.How can you tell,if someone is more intelligent than you?Most of us ...would not subject our potential dates or partners to a series of exams.We would not cleverly ...trick them into answering telling questions?Would we...?We would ask them...multiple questions with the aim of figuring out,what they know and believe?Would we not...?Whether you have done it before or not...there is almost a 100% chance that,it has been done to you.The problem with...such ventures is that the "asker" has to be smarter than the "askee "for it to be valid.[I do not bother]You would ...only look like a mug,if the person is smarter than you.
Anyway ...what are the pros and cons of dating someone,more intelligent than you?I have a few answers[...and I am sure there are more b/c there are a lot of smarter people out there,haha]
The pros include:
1-A FASTER PROBLEM SOLVER
There are multi-facet advantages to having a problem solver as your companion.There is the point about emergencies:we hardly want someone who would be frazzled and clueless when unexpected events occur.It is not ...a matter of staying calm[because it is not enough]You need someone who is highly informed[someone who knows what they are doing]We are not ..always at our best.So a partner who jumps in...and saves us a lot of embarrassment is an asset.Problems vary from degree to degree.It is uncommon for anyone to encounter every type of problem before their demise.So having someone smarter than you...along for the ride,is a huge relief.Especially...if your intelligence is not to be sniffed at either.The bottom line is...TWO HEADS ARE BETTER THAN ONE.And it is better to have a smart one,and a smarter one, than a smart one AND a dumb one.
2-A RICHER AND FULLER COMPANIONSHIP
The second reason...for having a more intelligent person as a partner is,communication.There are two parts to this point.You can have a good communication with someone because they have a lot to say.Or you could have
a good talk with someone,simply because they are clear and articulate in conversations.[both are a product of intelligence]Now,my communication can be articulate at times,and sometimes it could be mumbo jumbo ...to others[I strive to improve everyday]It is important to ...keep things simple because,ideas are complex[9/10]from their original source.I DO NOT KNOW HOW WELL I SUCCEEDED WITH THAT LAST STATEMENT.So forgive me.It can be difficult sometimes.However,smarter people would almost always have a reply to your questions and statements.Of Course,confidence is another issue.Nevertheless,when they are relaxed...someone smarter than you...would always help to make great conversations.And whether you are talking about dating or a full-on relationship...conversation is 90% of the ride.
Now some of you may not see ....the huge plus side with this reason.I think,it is crucial for some people.In a world increasingly becoming...obsessed with image .Some can find respite...in the fact that their partners are smarter.If your colleagues or friends...are the teasing or bullying type,you can always fall back on the help of your partner's superior intelligence.Everytime...you fall short of expectations,you can respond with a statement like"just because I don't know or understand does not mean ...my partner does not know either.[he or she is more intelligent,so they could know]And so...you can have a defence every single time[as long as he/she is not close by...to support your incredible claims]
The cons include:
1-A MOOD KILLER
One thing ...an intelligent person thrives upon is,being right.It is a rare person
who has the ability to solve problems and figure out things,to submit those privileges
to someone else.It is because we want to be right at all times,that we apply our intelligence.So it is hard to say...I am wrong when,you think you are right.[Playing the fool...?]There is only..a number of times,you can be submissive for peace sake.Unfortunately.....the desire to be RIGHT,makes us sulk when we have been played out because we have made a mistake somewhere.When your partner is dancing ....their dance of victory,you feel something has been taken away from you?It is your right to be right.[being the smarter ...one]Please get over yourself.Don't get me wrong...I am guilty of this sin.We all need ...to grow up.And I always hope I am better at it ..than I was,in the PAST.It is a Mood killer,when you cannot rejoice with your partner,when they outsmart you.[when you are the more intelligent one]It is one of the perks ...she/he receives from trying to match your brilliance.This is probably...the number one reason people detest dating someone smarter than them;they are mood-killers.
2-ABSENT-minded DURING Companionship
One of the pit-falls of having someone more intelligent than you is the...risk.The risk of boring them ...too soon.When someone is on a higher plane of knowledge...it takes them away from you.You are only amusing,as a source of entertainment.When the serious thinking and educational thoughts come around,you could find yourself frozen out.He/she would seem absent-minded ...because they have taken a trajectory from what you said.And they could not share it...because you would probably,not understand fully.As companionship and communication is 90%...of dating and r/ships,it seems ...stupid to accept a deal,where you would be frozen out most of the time.And you ...feel alone,when you are supposed to feel together and part of someone.
3-IRRITATING ARROGANCE OR CONDESCENDING ATTITUDE
Haha...this is some what ,not the fault of the smarter partner.It just seems common...
that no matter,how you try to relate information or feelings[as the smarter one];it comes
across as condescending or arrogant.If you are ...the kind of person who is full of insecurities,PLEASE DON'T adopt the idea of dating or relating with someone smarter.If you start out well..it quickly turns into an irritation every time,they try to help you.At one point...of the relationship,you would want to start asserting yourself more.And ...intelligence is not a quality you can easily over take someone in.So they will still be smarter and right more times.So you will find yourself ...jamming against a wall,as you try to be dominant in an area ...almost impossible.I feel this is number 2...on the list of relationship breakers.
4-SPOT LIGHT GRABBER
Again...insecurity is not a helpful quality.Intelligent people tend to draw attention successfully.If your woman or man is smarter than you,there is a high chance that the spot light would be more on them.[when you are out ...together]And seeing..less and less of the spot light,can make you seek solace somewhere else.So you need ..to be capable of handling "second class"status most of the times.Can you?
5-YOU CAN BECOME AN EASY PREY
.....Just as some of these cons,are not the fault of the smarter partner;some are clearly the fault of the smarter one...This is another one.There is no relationship...that does not go through periods of arguments.When one side has ...the ability to twist notions and words more than the other person,there is a temptation.A temptation to blame every fault on them.If you can avoid ...embarrassing moments by arguing your flawed stance,would you?Most of us...do.And if she/he is hopeless against your superior intelligence...what chance does she/he have to prevent being an easy prey.If you cannot articulate your defence,it does not mean...you cannot figure out when you are right...and the other person is wrong.Most people do not want to be ...the easy prey.They would rather be the ...merciful predator,than be a hopeful prey.
My conclusion...is,find someone pretty much on the same level of intelligence.In
life,planning your path is hardly ...all down to you.So if,you find yourself in a relationship or dating someone more intelligent than you...just hope you have read an article like mine.
PLEASE LOOK OUT FOR ...THE REST OF THE SERIES,and pray I have something
to write[I DON't Always have an idea of what is coming out of my head ...haha]
WHAT IS YOUR PLAYING MENU LIKE?Is it BALANCED?
Life is about...WORK,REST AND FLOURISHING.We work to achieve excellence.We rest to recuperate our energy.And we start to flourish by force of nature,when the work and rest we have done start to produce good results .The only problem I have is,finding the right PLAY or PLEASURE,when I am flourishing.And I know,a lot of people have the same problem.We tend to stick with one diet.(and beat it to death)It is the equivalent of eating bread,in the morning,afternoon and evening,everyday.And then we question...why our lives feel unexciting?We have to make a deliberate and conscious decision to enjoy ourselves.And let me state here that...we show that we are thriving luxuriously,by the class of pleasure we are involved in.The general layman's understanding of flourishing in life is,having a beautiful shelter,intelligent and well-behaved offsprings and lots of festive experiences or holidays.It is fundamentally...much more than that,in reality.
How important is our playing time to well being?How diverse are the classes and types of pleasure we involve in,on a daily basis?Is it possible to equate our food types with our leisure endeavours,so we can see the importance of variety?
One thing that competes with ...our playtime is, the drive for excellence. I have come to understand that excellence is over-rated.What do I mean?Well,the achievements of great people in history has ...in time ,proven beneficial to all of us.However,I have also noted that...the wow! moment that comes after such achievement does not last forever.Human beings move onto the next thing.Of course,when we think,about the common good...excellence has no rival.On the other hand,on an individual(and maybe self-centred) basis...leisure has very little competition.It is very important.Excellence makes no sense...(to us),if there is no personal pleasure involved.In our bid to find excellence that benefits everyone (and accrues applaud),we should try to balance it with ...an adequate healthy playing time.
If I may return to the main topic...after that attempt to,prove the importance of sparing enough time for deliberate PLAY TIME.What is our playing MENU LIKE?
The best way...to look at playing time is,to consider every affair and aspect of life as a league(of some sort).In sporting terms,we understand how the league system works!There are a group of teams or individuals competing for a common prize,under an agreed set of rules.And it makes ....for more fun,when there is an audience or fan base that follow it.This is the concept that has made ...examples like F1,music charts,Olympics,Fashion parades,soap dramas and football's champions league great successes.
There are many leagues in this world.And your playtime can be divided equally between these interests.(either as a participant,an observer/follower or a committed fan).It would enrich your life,and make your play menu....balanced.
This is the most influential league.I would probably say...it is the most popular one.You could be talking of football,cricket,athletics,rugby,golf,tennis,motor sports,board games(between family members or friends).There are so many sports ....people participate in that we can get involved with or follow;mountain climbing,basketball,baseball,volleyball and others.
What is happening...in your social circles?On the local level?On the national and international level?In your area ...what is happening?Clearly,this is a league ...most people are comfortable with...I am not a huge fan.Celebrity following ...is another huge aspect of this league.With everything in life...extreme behaviour and obsessions can easily become a lifestyle.I hardly,advocate this ....with any of the leagues mentioned here.Twitter and Facebook have become easy media of interactions.And information of all kinds of details ....are exchanged.In real time,people are made aware of what is going on(like a mini-village)for better or worse.Sadly,for some ...this is the only league they follow.
Great economies have been built by great minds and human effort.The crisis of today...has it's roots in the history of economics.A league ....consisting of the American,Russian,European and Asian economies,is worth following.How did the German Economy become so strong?Is it really that strong?These are questions,one can ask,and find answers to....even if you are on minimum wage....or of average intelligence.The basic questions are not hard to understand.And the more ...you follow this league,the more intelligent and aware you become...
This consists of the filming ,music and TV industry.It could also encompass every other sphere of life....in a broader sense.How well did ...the big buster film do in the cinema?Who is leading in the music charts?It may have "little"to do with your struggle to survive daily but ,it is a healthy distraction.BELIEVE ME.
This league has the worst reputation.And I for one,understand why it draws a lot of apathy.Nevertheless,I still find it intriguing.Politics has drawn its lines along ideology and affluence.As much as...the expected standard of conduct of politicians has gone unmatched,I still find their attempts to disguise their failures,as hilarious.Remember, culprits...do get punished,sometimes.
This is the oldest league ....in the world.The two-tier league between males and females.With the evolution of human nature and behaviour,society has seen a lot of
changes in the way we treat each other.We have (with time)defined and redefined the roles of each sex in society.And the trend or ebb and flow ...of this notion can be characterised as a league that can be followed by every one.Ofcourse ,the big question..we have asked over millenniums is ,WHO IS ON TOP:men or women,and why?I am not keen on this league but,I appreciate a section of us,are hugely impressed by it.
The fashion business is worth billions.And that fact coincides with the fact that...our society is influenced heavily by what happens in that world.New developments by the leading names...can be followed and admired.
...And this does not refer only to financial might.It also includes intellectual and emotional wealth.Some people find fun...in tracking down information about the most wealthy individuals in the world.Some enjoy following the tables of the most influential and powerful names:how they rank against each other.And how ...some of them manage to move up the "league table".IT CAN BE FUN.
if there is a league that has developed rapidly over the last decade;it is this one.New ways of exercising have propped up from nowhere.And equipments for gyms all over world have evolved by the years.It is worth ...staying in touch with new ideas about fitness and nutrition.And you can still be a ...couch potato while doing it(just joking!)
IN SUMMARY ,FUN IS NOT ...STRIVING TO GAIN THE "GOOD" things in life,so you can spend the rest of your days ..showing it off .FUN is living each day with a healthy balanced set of pleasures after you have worked and rested for the day....that is when your SOUL is nourished and happy.Austin4sports.com.ENJOY THE OSCARS,everyone.
WHY WE TALK AND CHAT?
I apologise for the long absence of an article.It is not about putting something out,even when it carries little meaning.After all,that is what we are interested in[meaning],as human beings.I agree ...our lives are full contradictions ...we often end up making up meaning for ourselves.Nevertheless,we can hardly survive without some sense of meaning.One of the things we do ...on a daily basis,that brings meaning and relief to our existence,is talking or chatting.We talk about ourselves and others.We talk about the weather and politics.We talk about sports and celebrities.We talk about ideas and hopes.Why do we chat?
A. FINDING COMMON GROUND
The first motivation that drives us to chat with others ...is usually to find some common ground.We are instinctively afraid of being alone.(physically,emotionally and mentally)We have a drive to want to be understood?Why?It is simply ...to avoid being alone.We want others to join us in our own way of thinking.We are built that way.Finding similar stands on issues helps us to feel part of others.It is a strong need.If you want to test the validity of this point.Try this "harmless"trick.[as long as they do not realise what you are doing]When someone tries to explain something to you;just reply with "I DO NOT UNDERSTAND ".And see their response?Would they stop trying to explain or would they even try harder to make themselves understood?
B. ACHIEVING SOME INTIMACY
Another motivation for our desire to talk to each other....is for intimacy.It is slightly different from finding common ground.Intimacy is about ...making others live your experience.You can explain yourself to someone so that they can realise a shared common ground.However that is different from letting them experience it for themselves.When we rant or spill our guts to someone else without them replying[or saying anything until you finish];there is some intimacy involved.Nobody needs to explain...to the listener what you are feeling;they are experiencing it.[for themselves]
In a certain way...sharing secrets with others is also,to create some intimacy.Intimacy is about going a distance with someone more than ...you usually go with others.Even when we ..are talking about mundane topics,we could still be trying to create intimacy.If you do not have the habit of talking that much with anyone else then,it is intimacy you are seeking to achieve.
C. ACHIEVING SOME OUTCOME
We often[sometimes we don't] ...have an outcome [in our minds]that we want to achieve,before we approach someone to talk.It could be ...to tell a joke,give an advice,heal their emotions or feelings.It could be to tell a story.It could even be ...just to kill or waste idle time.When we finish chatting...we feel satisfied with our actions,if the outcome we aimed for comes into reality.
D. IT IS HEALTHY
Above and beyond...any other reason or motivation,is the fact that talking has good health implications for all of us.There is not a single therapist out there that would ....tell you that expressing yourself is unhealthy.The physical benefits...lie in muscle exercise.The emotional benefits lie in off-loading chronic worries.The mental benefits ...lie in been able to keep your brain and mind actively sharp.Of Course,talking too much has it's repercussions.And also talking out of tune or proper occasion has it's downfalls.So try to be balanced....And talking can
do you more good than all those pain killers you are popping into your system.Find trusted [as much as you can trust them]company to talk to ...because,talking is like sowing seeds.And sowing bad seeds..produce bad fruits.And good seeds on bad ground,produce no fruits.
E. SHOW RESPECT
This is a bit difficult to explain but,we talk sometimes to show respect.[if you like ...to be polite].Awkward silence can be irritating...so we talk.Personally,I would rather be rude than ...say something stupid or meaningless.Be respectful but try to be meaningful.
F. TO KEEP UP WITH OUR LIES/ wrongful wishes
Haha,I obviously do not advocate this motive to talk or chat.If you have read my past articles...[in my Footballfella.net website] you would completely understand.Some have painted an image or personality that is far from ...who they are in reality.And so,to maintain that falsehood,they need to talk.They have to maintain their lies with more lies [or false shows]After a while,a network of lies has been formed.And a lot of energy is needed to sustain it.The truth of the matter is that ...most of us do not care about chronic liars.Once we have correctly identified someone who is a perpetual falsehood projector,we ignore whatever they say.[we do not take them serious]
G. To iron out the intense DEBATE B/w SELF JUDGEMENT AND SELF EXPERIMENT.
Have you ever considered giving names to the voices in your head?Every one has at least two voices in their mind or brain.[some more....]Anytime you have a decision to make;there is a pro and con argument for it.One mind or voice is judgemental about your inclination,and the other is ...experimental.When we talk out our dilemma,it is easier to figure out which way to go.Sometimes the audience is clueless,about the tumult going on in our mind.And it is okay,because your action of chatting can achieve two goals;to iron out your internal debate and entertain/educate your chatting companion.
H. TO KEEP UP WITH OUR GOAL TO CONTROL AND manipulate.
On a similar timeline as keeping up with ...our lies,is the keeping up with the aim to maintain control and domination.We are ....in control[or seem to be] when we are selling rather than buying.Unfortunately,most of us have nothing or poor quality to sell.It is hugely irritating for audiences to listen to crap.This is why,some of us ...who desire to talk/chat to keep up with our goal to control and manipulate the groups we belong to(without substance to do it)find ourselves irritating others.
I. If we THINK SOCIETY is about r/ships AND WORKING TOGETHER to achieve things.
Whether you belong to the religious section or the irreligious part of mankind,one has to agree on the fact that society needs to work together ,to function well.All the evil in the world can never be eradicated[in my opinion].However,the urgent need to deal and solve several of humankind problems...is imminent .We have only ourselves to blame,if problems become more complex because we have refused to come together to solve them.Of course,differences would always exist between us but,so also would common problems.And networking and compromising on our deep seated principles for awhile ...helps smoothen solutions into the system.It is impossible to work society or work in society efficiently without chatting to one another.If you are ...the kind of person who thinks society is about working together to achieve goals,you would find talking invaluable.
J. TO EXPRESS OUR WANTS AND NEEDS
From the time we learn how to talk, to the time we find our bodies in some grave...we realise that to get what we want and need,we have to express them.Talking helps us to communicate our wishes to those around us.We could chose to command,seduce,cajole,discuss or display our wishes.All media require us to talk to each other.And for ...those of us who,are inclined to rely on telepathy or subtle body language only ,to express our wants and needs;my hopes for you is limited.You need to say what you want,and mean what you say.Otherwise,there is very little chance of getting what you want.Rejection is part of life.Rejection lets you ...know what you cannot get or what does not deserve you.Ask for what you want.
K. TO THINK OUT & through OUR PROBLEMS.
When we iron ...out the debate between our judgemental and experimental self,it is similar to this motive.To think out our problems is a break-off from the G point above.The slight difference[for me]is the awareness of your chatting partner.You can present a problem ...and ask for a solution.This could be your reason for talking.In a group,it is called brainstorming.At the beginning of the chat..an answer to the questions are not available.However,we usually hope that ...by the end of the conversation there are answers [or a possibility of one].
L. IF THERE IS A DESIRE to express feelings and thoughts.
Sometimes we have no clear spelt out goal or concrete destination...when we talk.We just want to talk,to feel good or better.There are times ...when expressing yourself is more important than been understood.Your desire is a bit selfish.It is okay[in my book]You can have a need to blow off steam or stress,and talking about "nothing"or "rubbish"can heal your discomfort or hurt.It means more ...to you than to the person you are talking to...[a good reason to have real friends]It is moments like this...that you spill precious information.And you do not want ...anyone off the street to handle knowledge that can be used as a laser weapon against you.
Expressing our incompletely formed feelings and thoughts,is both healthy and wise.However,my advice is that ...you do not do it often.Incomplete understanding or thoughts..are not your true feelings or knowledge,so the more you air it,the more the listeners[you or friend]start to think ....it is what you truly believe.No gooder!!
M. TO IMPROVE OUR IDEAS
Intellectuals[no hating,plz] love this ...motive.In their brain and mind ...are floating ideas and notions.It is like a sea of toys.Which one...do I play with?I call them ...internally energized people.Talking about these notions or ideas...helps improve their resident ideas.And before you ...ask,why would someone want to improve on an idea that would most likely not amount to anything [you never know].Think of a collector of [stamps,cars music or sexual experiences]It is the memory of them that counts ....to their meaning.And improving ...the collection whether it is by increasing quantity or embellishing the stories or pimping up the car;it adds to the visual and recalling experience.
N. BECAUSE ENCOURAGEMENT AND MOTIVATION are in short supply.
A lot of people are hurting.Believe me people.We are increasingly becoming a generation that keep our hurts and struggles bottled up.It is seen as a sign of weakness,and a 'survival flawed move',to open up.We need encouragement and motivation ...in whatever pursuits we embark upon in life.The bottle or drug ...would not replace a healthy ...encouraging talk from a fellow human being.People judge easily of course.However,you have to measure the potential harm ...when you keep things inside for too long.When events and experiences are frustrating or disappointing...it is when we turn to the time-tested habit of talking with someone who can motivate you further.I PRAY FOR EACH OF MY READERS...THAT YOU FIND SOMEONE THAT CAN TALK TO YOU AT THOSE CRUCIAL MOMENTS..WHEN EVERYTHING SEEMS BAD.Trust me ...nothing is worth over-stressing.Tommorrow is a different today.Public opinion is over-rated.Heroes turn into zeros,and zeroes turn into heroes in split seconds.Work hard ...but,do not stress out.Read my article on happiness.
O. TO REINVENT OURSELVES.
Finally,we talk to change the way we perceive ourselves.You can talk yourself ...into taking a bold action or move.We also talk ...to change how others view us.Life is about learning and progressing.It does not matter how small.It could be ...just being able to see another day.HAPPYLIVING guys and gals....austin4sports.com Article.If you know anyone ...who needs this article,do not hesitate to copy and send it them.Thanks